So today I made a guidance appointment with my guidance counselor, I got in her office and sat down I started to discuss with her some of my relationship problems and she told me that I don't always need to be so focused on men, life is about having fun and enjoying every minute of it not dressing up every weekend to go find a man, I then told her about Valentines day and how I am not looking forward to it because i'm single and she said why be bummed about that when I was your age me and my girlfriends would all go out for dinner and celebrate. When she told me all of this it really opened my eyes and made me realize my hole life has been about men, its not necessary to always have a man by your side I've never just been single and not looked for a man. It felt like i had a blind fold on and she took it of, i felt relieved and happy. Ladies you don't need to be sad and kiss the ground your boyfriend/husband walks on you are so much stronger then that.
Okay, so its 1 am in the morning and i have no idea what i'm doing up or even what to type about at this moment. I will probably regret writing this when i wake up, but i'm doing it anyway. I am currently single getting over a rough break up. Break ups are tough, when your by yourself your a mess, when your with your friends you feel okay. There are girls i know who can get over guys so easy and i look at them and say wow...you are very lucky to get over a heart break that fast but at the same time i think are they really over it or just putting it in the back of there head to cry about when they get home from school? When me and my boyfriend recently broke up i was very upset and shocked i never saw it coming i knew i had to do something quick to not get into a sad, depressing rut where i'm sitting in bed crying. So i went to the gym and guess what? It helped i feel like it really helped me feel better, occupy some of my time and get my mind of things. When you get your heart broken all you feel like doing is eating... well that's how i feel. But this time was different this time i want to feel good about myself and start to look good as well. I just felt like sharing a bit of my knowledge on breakups hope it helps some of you! Also check out my "Infamous breakup" for more advice. You can comment below on a topic related to love, men or women you would like me to discuss. p.s i will not just be writing about breakups if anyone is wondering once i'm feeling a bit better i'll be blogging about much more! Stay happy! xo
"I can't do this anymore, i'm sorry" "No please, was it me?" " It's not you its me". Typical break up situation leaving you flat on your ass to what dive in the freezer to grab expried choclate ice cream and watch sappy reality shows reminding you of what just happend...No. Break ups are brudel i now all about them but the mistake all girls make is doing that exact thing its because you don't now what to do he left you and now your lost. You will need some time to cry and just be yourself no makeup, sleep it sounds awful but its in the break up process i got told the same and i thought hell no that sounds so depressing it makes you feel better next you will for sure need some type of alcoholic drink, underage, overage, teen or women get some alcohol i'm not recomending you get full out drunk but have some alcohol in your system. Get a gym membership to cleanse your body its good for you and makes you feel great, go to the hair salon and get a new haircut, highlights whatever you need get done. Get your nails done make yourself look good and you will feel good. Start to go out im not talking about dating yet im talking about a night out with your friends see a movie go out for a drink. When my boyfriend broke up with me i was so scared like s#@! now what do i do?! you feel abandoned and confused you analize every detail betwen your last night out and the type of shirt he wore to your birthday dinner. A break up is a personal experience you have to deal with yes your friends are there to support you but its mostly you who has to get over this. Don't throw yourself at men (which i did) the day after we broke up i made out with some guy... DO NOT DO! You might be ready to put yourself out there or you may not be if your not dont pressure yourself, this is all about you. A broken heart takes time to heal its not an over night process the hole process of getting over it is awful but once your healed you feel great trust me! your not alone lots of women and teens go through this. Be confident that you will get over the heart break you need to be positive the more you dought yourself you will get no where be positive it will be hard but you need to try. Be happy no one deserves this but you will get through it if you follow all of these steps, i wish someone told me all of this when i got dumped but now i know what to do for next time (if there is one) find out what works for you in a break up situation and share your thoughts.