I know It's Her Body But No She CAN'T

By Leaka · Apr 9, 2009 · ·
  1. My mother and father want to have another child.
    They are talking about it and everything.
    I know it's my moms body and I know she can do whatever she wants with it.
    But I say she can't have another baby.
    I don't want her to.
    I was the one who gave her complications and nearly didn't make it.
    I was their miracle child.
    So that miracle was now be replaced by another.
    I know it's her body, but I don't want a sibling.
    I don't want her to have one.
    I know it's her body.
    But it's my mom and it's my dad.
    I don't want another being in this home.

Comments

  1. Banzai
    It's not really your choice, Leaka.

    And would a sibling necessarily be bad?
  2. madhoca
    Leaka--it's nor your mother's BODY that is the point in question here. You're talking about a FAMILY. Families change over the years. One day you'll maybe find a partner or have a child yourself, your protests are about as futile as it would be for your parents to prevent you from doing that. This is not just a physical thing, it's about the love and dynamics in a family. You CANNOT say you don't want a sibling if you have never had one, and you are missing out on a lot believe me. I'm the oldest, then I had 3 brothers and a sister. 2 of my brothers died and I still think about them often. After each new baby there was a bit of adjustment in the family, then we re-grouped and went on. I'm so happy that I have siblings, if your mother DOES have a baby I hope you'll be able to discover all the wonderful positive things about being part of a larger family. Yes, brothers and sisters can be a pain sometimes, I don't even see them all that much now we're older with our own families--but the good was more than the bad.
  3. Leaka
    Yes a sibling would be necessarily bad. I wouldn't no where to start myself. When I grow up all I want are my writings those are my children. I don't want any of my own. So I don't want a sibling either. How the heck are they even going to raise the child. I'm home alone cause they work late hours. When the child is old enough they'll just leave us alone. A sibling would be terrible.
  4. Ashleigh
    Wow, if there was ever a time when growing up and stopping the imaturity would be a good thing, then this'd be it.

    You're acting like a spoiled brat - that's pretty bad at 17.

    It's a shame that if she had another child with you around, she'd be raising two babies instead of one :rolleyes:
  5. Neha
    You know what Leaka? I often rant and ramble and wish to God I was a single child-that's when I get blamed for stuff she did.


    But then the next day she does totally something sweet and makes it up for me. She's the first person I run to when I'm in trouble, she'll always be there for me, and I know that. And I love her.

    Having a sibling is the most wonderful thing. Think of it this way, you're your parents' child too, and in a year or two when you go out they'll be lonely. And maybe that's why they've decided to have a kid now. Helping them take care of the child will just bind you stronger in your family-NOT undermime your importance. If your parents had felt the same as you do now...you wouldn't be posting this blog in the first place.

    And as for your other opinion? Talk to me when your sorrounded by thousands of your books, on a cold winter night-with rheumatism,, and no one to light a fire for you...or when you've taken your last breath and there's no one to cry at your funeral.

    That was just my opinion. Nothing personal.
  6. Leaka
    Wow, total Ashleigh comment there complete and total disregard on how someone feels. Yeah so what. I'm not a baby. I've just been an only child, whom never had a sibling before. Because I was first born I was spoiled. Because I was their only child, I got whatever I wanted. I got the benefits of two children, the spoiled rotten behavior from if my parents had a second child. And I got the support that you need to give the first child.
    That doesn't make me a baby. Just makes me a bit like to children in one.

    @Neha: I like being alone. Always have. But that doesn't mean others do. I do things on my own, I'm not very good person. I don't want a funeral, I don't want to be burn. When it time for me to die. I'll die somewhere safe in soil and let myself rot away in soul alone by myself. Like nature had intended it.
    I'm bullheaded and stubborn.
    I don't know what to do with a sibling. Children like me to much, which ends up in me getting upset at them. Because I don't want people to cling to me. I don't want people crying for me. I don't want to have to cry for someone else. Because I don't expect them to feel for me. And if they don't feel for me I feel better. If mom and dad hate me then it's better for them.
    Because they won't be so sad when I leave this world so earlier and so young in life.
  7. Leaka
    Wow, total Ashleigh comment there complete and total disregard on how someone feels. Yeah so what. I'm not a baby. I've just been an only child, whom never had a sibling before. Because I was first born I was spoiled. Because I was their only child, I got whatever I wanted. I got the benefits of two children, the spoiled rotten behavior from if my parents had a second child. And I got the support that you need to give the first child.
    That doesn't make me a baby. Just makes me a bit like to children in one.

    @Neha: I like being alone. Always have. But that doesn't mean others do. I do things on my own, I'm not very good person. I don't want a funeral, I don't want to be burn. When it time for me to die. I'll die somewhere safe in soil and let myself rot away in soul alone by myself. Like nature had intended it.
    I'm bullheaded and stubborn.
    I don't know what to do with a sibling. Children like me to much, which ends up in me getting upset at them. Because I don't want people to cling to me. I don't want people crying for me. I don't want to have to cry for someone else. Because I don't expect them to feel for me. And if they don't feel for me I feel better. If mom and dad hate me then it's better for them.
    Because they won't be so sad when I leave this world so earlier and so young in life.
  8. marina
    You are so honest, Leaka. You let everybody see your dark side. We all have them, but you shout yours out, almost like you're gleeful at exposing the uglier sides of your character.

    Having said that, I think I would have a hard time going from being the only child to having my parents show love & attention to someone else. Hopefully you will learn to love a bit more than you do now.
  9. Speedy
    No offence in the following Leaka, dont take it the wrong way.

    But your mother is the adult and you the child. If she wants something she deserves to get what she wants. If you dont like it, you have to bite the bullet. She raised you, now its time for you to respect her dicisions.

    If you don't like it, leave home and start living your own life.

    THAT said, you have a greek background, family means absolute everything in that culture....which surprises me that you wouldnt embrace another family member.

    I hope for yorr sake she does have a child. You may hate it at first, but having siblings, teaches you alot about life (And because your older you'd even learn more from it).

    Hang in their leaka, just remember to respect your mum, you only get one.
  10. Neha
    Leaka-I didn't know you were Greek, I would've kept my mouth shut...I know quite a few Greek people, and they're all stubborn. But, just keep this in mind-when you fall in love..you'll fall hard, and trust me hun...you'll love it, so much so that you'll want her to have your kids.

    And don't say anything to this. Just remember, fate, serendipity, destiny, kismet-you don't know where it's leading you, so never make the mistake of counting your chickens before they hatch.

    I hope you find something that helps you lose your cynical attitude, I seriously hope you do. And if you love your parents-it time to show it, by supporting their decision.

    Edit-I just had to say to say this, IMO-beneath that "I'm so bad" attitude...I think you're just afraid of showing people your good side and having then turn away for that. So you've just built this wall around your heart and hardened your thinking. It's just fear.
  11. Speedy
    Idont think Leaka is trying to show a bad side. I means its the internet. Its not hard to misunderstand someone.

    And i wouldn't just call them stubburn, their passionate and extremly opinionated. Which when it comes to online forums, people can't handle it seems.
  12. Kitbug
    Whoa, everyone getting into an argument about what he said much? What happened to freedom of speech? It's his blog and he should be able to say whatever he wants without being attacked. If you want to offer words of advice, go ahead, but calling him a spoiled brat is mean and uncalled for, don't you think?
  13. Ashleigh
    He isn't being attacked. He clearly wanted a response, otherwise he wouldn't have posted it publically in an online blog for every to see and comment on.

    People really need to realise that freedom of speech does not mean 'lets all sugar coat a response or not say anything at all!' - Yes, calling him a spoiled brat is mean, but I felt it was true.

    and I think that addressing it as an 'attack' will be the aid in causing an actual problem aswell as providing a conflict. If you just leave things alone, they won't escalate, Kitbug.

    Leaka, I'll be honest - I think you're being very childish and this 'I'm alone' act is really nothing more than a cry for attention -which you allegedly don't want. I still stand by the fact that being 17 makes you a little too told to get away with this emo-kid thing, and it really does. Your parents can do what they like, and if you really don't care about being alone, then surely you'll have moved out and be living your lone ranger life by the time any other child enters your home?

    Somebody who lives and works alone would need to be independant, confident, and self-reliant, and all we're seeing here is a child's selfish reaction to the idea of sharing their home lives with another sibling. You cannot be both.

    If you wised up a little, you might find that having the responsibility of being a good example to a sibling could make you a much better person in the long run.

    However - lets be honest, you could look at things however you like - be childish, be responsible, be accepting, be defiant- it doesn't make a difference.

    Ultimately, it's your parent's decision to make, and whatever the outcome is, you should be ready to accept it.
  14. Leaka
    Excuse me Ashleigh. DON'T YOU GO THERE. Speedy is correct about the whole Greek culture is family thing. But if you saw my family and the way they treat siblings and way siblings out you wouldn't want a sibling. In my family siblings either turn out wonderful and bliss or for some reason some act of chaos they turn out to be terrible people even with the great siblings teaching them.
    Ashleigh you are probably the most spoiled out of us all. I'm sure you have people listen to ever day and say you know that is a great idea.
    For me it's a little different. I'm ignored, I'm hated, I detested.
    Kids at school hate me so much and their siblings hate me too. What do you think they are going to do if my sibling was ever a picture of that? They'd start hating me too. It isn't because I want to be the emo kid or because I want to be spoiled.
    IT'S BECAUSE I DON'T WANT TO GET HURT ANY MORE THEN WHAT I AM. My cousins chime in with other children to make fun of me. And knowing my families history with siblings no matter how much effort. My sibling might be the one who chimes in as well. And I don't want that to happen. So I rather be alone, I rather be an only child rather watch someone who is suppose to be dear and close to me slip away into the hands of other kids. I don't want to have to face up to my mistakes always being slammed into my face. Children, kids, teenagers they never seem to let the pass go. I've turned over a new leaf with my mistakes and yet they will continue to hammer nail me inwards. I hate working with groups because I am being ignored. I hate being with people because I feel all I ever get is sympathy. I hate being emotional connected to someone because I don't want that emotion that love to go away. And if I am connected to them to much, if I am close to them. If I am so close to that person, it will hurt more then anything to lose them. And trust me I lose a lot in my life. Relationships with people even my own family, I have lost a lot. It isn't because I am being spoiled, it isn't because I just want my parents. It's more connected it's more connected to the route of not wanting to lose someone. SO DON'T YOU GO THERE. DON'T YOU DARE. I DON'T NEED YOUR INSULTS.
  15. Kitbug
    Ashleigh, it won't escalate unless you make it. Calling someone a spoiled brat who needs to grow up is wrong, no matter how true you believe it is. And that's the same as attacking someone. So lay off. He never once asked for opinions, the way I read it is more of a vent of frustration than anything else. If you want to read into it a desperate plea for attention then I think you're doing pretty bad. I mean, really, someone who sees a desperate plea shouldn't be stomping all over the person and calling them trash. Either keep your mouth shut or help out. I'm not saying sugar coat it, but where does insulting help? If all you want to do is throw around insults then don't say anything. Period.
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