Tired

By Wreybies · Jun 13, 2016 · 767 · 9
  1. Maybe numb is a better word. Yesterday's mass shooting didn't happen here in Puerto Rico, but it may as well have. It took place in one of Orlando's most popular, most frequented LGBT clubs on that club's most popular most frequented night: Latin Music Night. The club is typically packed on latino night and there's a line waiting to get in. The roster that is slowly being released of the people who died is almost exclusively filled with names like Gutierrez, Guerrero, Ocasio, Sotomayor, Santiago, Fuentes, Davila, etc. And Orlando's latin community is overwhelmingly a Puerto Rican community. My Facebook feed is strewn with people I know posting about the loved ones they lost, the family that is dead, the friends they will never see again. I know it didn't happen here, but it feels like it did.

    I'm fed up of people and their opinions on my life. I don't think I can hear one more person who doesn't have a fucking clue what they are talking about, tell me their opinion that gay is a choice. I would never in a million years presume to tell a woman that I think I have a better idea of what womanhood is about than she does. I would find it unconscionable to inform a black person about his or her experience as a black person. I would never do these things, and not even because they would be offensive things to do, but because it would be completely illogical for me to do so. With no footing in real-world experience, how could I think to opine?

    I'm really tired of this fight. I'm tired of feeling like I have to prove to anyone the autonomous validity of my existence. If you're reading this and thinking that I should have to, then fuck you.

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  1. A.M.P.
    I'm generally pretty apathetic to things but hearing this on my news show this morning really hit hard.

    You might remember a thread I made last year where I said how a gay club/bar can be a place where someone like us can finally stop being gay and just feel normal for a while.
    It's kinda fucked up that now, every time we go out now, we're going to think of the shooting and suddenly not feel so safe anymore.
    A.M.P., Jun 13, 2016
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  2. jannert
    Our lovely SNP MP (the very young -21 year-old -gay woman Mhairi Black, who has taken Westminster by storm since the General Election last year) had this to say this morning:

    Being gay is not a lifestyle choice. Hating gay people is a lifestyle choice.
    jannert, Jun 13, 2016
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  3. Lifeline
    Just a hug. Just one hug at a time.
    Lifeline, Jun 13, 2016
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  4. ChaosReigns
    I feel much same Wrey, though I may not be one of the community, a lot of my friends are, and this yet again hits home, because if that were here in the UK, it could have been any one of the people I know, and that I think is what hit home for me.

    Religiously motivated or not, it is still an act against an already cornered community that really did not deserve this to happen to them, and it infuriates me that there is no way to stop this poor treatment of the entire LGBT+ community.

    I know we in the UK aren't perfect, but the only way everyone is happy is by having all countries that are willing to make a change on the same page, but I'm just being idealistic now...
    ChaosReigns, Jun 13, 2016
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  5. Hubardo
    Love you Wreybs. Thanks for this.
    Hubardo, Jun 13, 2016
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  6. obsidian_cicatrix
    You bet we're not perfect, Chaos.

    A Northern Irish politician who has been very vocal in his NO! to marriage equality (Well, him and the rest of his bible-bashing party) got a knighthood from the Queen this week.

    To say I was digusted is putting it mildly.
    obsidian_cicatrix, Jun 13, 2016
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  7. Wayjor Frippery
    Spot on, Wrey. Nothing more to say. Hugs.
    Wayjor Frippery, Jun 13, 2016
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  8. Oscar Leigh
    I hope William gives you many hugs. You need them. And all those families out there deserve better than this. All for nothing. Kind of a pathetic thing for someone to do, really. I feel sorry for them, since they were probably raised that way. I do hope some day they realize it's a waste of their time, and a waste of actual fucking lives, to follow this cause. So sad.
    Oscar Leigh, Jun 14, 2016
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