Words Once Spoken

It is one of my rules not to fight, because in anger or hurt we end up saying things that we don't mean and that are not true. It can be very dangerous to any relationship.

To resolve this issue, and to restore you brothers self worth, or how ever you want to put it. I would suggest that you write him a letter, telling him that you didn't mean anything you said. Tell him the things you admire about him, you know, stuff like that.

It will make you feel better, and it will put a mend on anything that has harmed his heart and mind. A sincere card would work too. But your words hurt him, and now he needs your words to heal him.

It's ok to make yourself vulnerable in an apology, it cleanse the soul. *huggles*

Anger can consume any one, any time. It’s ok to make some mistakes in life, but it’s not ok to leave those mistakes uncorrected. We are humans, we are not perfect, and we can make many mistakes , I made dozens of mistakes myself in relation with my family, but I knew that no matter what happens we are from the same blood . I may not know you completely, but at least dare to say that you are a very kind person, caring and loving, so I think that you never meant whatever you said to your brother, and if am guessing right, then you have a good relation with your family. So what you need to do is to call him, tell him that you want to meet with him somewhere (pick a nice place), have dinner or lunch with him or whatever, and then tell him about everything. Am sure that he will understand, in the end he is your brother
I hope that will help

Life is too short. I'm sure your brother knows this and wouldn't want you to waste oneprecious second more torturing yourself for something he already forgave and forgot.

~R

The words you spoke came from somewhere within. You need to understand this place and accept the feelings that built it. Show this place to your brother, so he too may understand it. Together you may be able to dismantle this dark abode within you, or at the least, let in some light and fresh air.

What Dave has said is correct. More than what was said, why it came up and out should be your concern. Make amends with your brother by telling him the regret you feel for what took place, but also let him know that it is on your mind why this thing happened. Don't let the apology just be a payment for bad behavior, let him know that the source is also concerning you. This will let your brother know that your concern and feelings are genuine. This will let better healing happen.