Things that inexplicably annoy me...

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  1. Chinspinner

    Chinspinner Contributor Contributor

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    I would never see Stephen Hawkins (or an unknown person with a similar condition) as pathetic. I would feel a sense of sadness that there are certain aspects of life that he will never be able to fully appreciate, I would try to keep that thought process locked down, but it would be going on in the background.
     
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    I will say this though. I almost created a character in an RPG that I was going to describe as fat and ugly. BUT--and this is a very big but--I wasn't going to describe my character as such in order to elicit sympathy from my readers. Rather, I was going to use those flaws as a disadvantage that my character had to overcome. And by that I mean I would have created another character who would have been brutally honest about her awful, awful looks. You see, every good story needs conflict--the more the better--and the best stories have internal as well as external conflict.

    Anyway, I'm sorry for going off on a tangent. By all means, please let the discussion of inexplicably annoying things continue.
     
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    Yeah. I know what you mean. But in spite of all that, in spite of there being certain aspects of life that he will never fully enjoy, look at how free and unconfined his mind is. When I look at him, I don't think about what he's missing. I think about what he's found. I think about his accomplishments and his understanding of our universe. I think about his contributions to science and astronomy. I'm sure that there are some things in life he wishes he could still experience, but you can tell just by observing him that he's not the type to dwell on what life has robbed him of.
     
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    It crossed my mind the thread had shifted to explicable irritations. But I wasn't angry, I was irritated and starting a new thread seemed inexplicably irritating.
     
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    To be honest, I thought my OP was an explicable irritation, but I couched it in certain language to cater for everyone's irritation thresholds.
     
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    I think this is inexplicable enough. People who could have used less harshly-worded criticism and their justification is "the person can take it." Even if the criticism isn't that bad, that justification really annoys me.
     
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    Those people who use i.e. (id est = that is) when they mean e.g. (exempli gratia = free example).

    I.e. means you're clarifying the point you just made

    E.g. means you're giving a free example of what you were just talking about.
     
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    Maybe the English language should start to use an abbreviation that was actually in English, so people wouldn't trip on it? :D
     
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    And people who say 'i.e.'

    And people who ask, "What say you?"
     
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    People who always have to be right.

    My husband, for example. lol Love him to death, but holy shit, he drives me crazy with his "rightness." I could say the sky is blue, and he'd say, "Ahh, it's more of a turquoise actually." -_- He knows it drives me nuts. He does it anyway! lol

    Yanno what else he says? "Whoa..... Stop yellin' at me." ...when I'm not even yelling!! lol We'll be in a friendly banter, discussing some thing or another. And when I start to be right, that's when he says it. Picked it up from his boss. I told him the next time I see his boss, Imma give him a piece of my mind. lol
     
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    Strangers who comment on other people's weight. You don't know them or their story and a stranger especially shouldn't bring up weight.

    People who try and use you but don't even know they're doing it.

    People who sit right in front of you on the train when there's plenty of other seats. It gives me anxiety so go away please haha.
     
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    People sitting next to/ opposite you on an empty train is weird. I assume one of three reasons:-
    1) They want to mug me, although a train would be an odd place to do so.
    2) Even worse, they want to engage me in conversation. In this eventuality I hope they have a screw loose so that we can discuss something interesting and not get stuck on tedious small talk.
    3) They are scared of getting attacked and want the security of being near someone, which is fine.

    I am fattist. It is the only "ism" I am strongly aware of in myself, but I see fat as lazy, self-debilitating in the short-term and harmful to health and limited communal resources in the long term. I think a small minority of fat people might have a physical or psychological condition, and the remainder deserve nothing other than my scorn.
     
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    The woman who lives a few doors down from me and just seems to have a constant monologue of expletive laced bile spewing from her mouth. Her husband and son are actually quite pleasant but she is a monumental c***.

    Luckily the place is temporary and I move out tomorrow.
     
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    I love my cat, I really do, but why does she have to jump into my lap when I'm lotus position on my yoga ball? WTF, cat? Are you trying to kill us both?

    Edit: Upon closer examination, I think it's just me she's trying to kill. (There's a book about it and everything...).
     
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    I'm pretty sure being fat is genetic in some people. For example, when I was in high school, I dated a guy who weighed at least 250 pounds. He never tried to work out or eat healthy or get in shape. He was muscular, sure, but most of it was just fat. And, his entire family was fat. So I was kind of understanding about it. But his mom, who had the fat family, was skinnier than me. Because she worked out every day and ate healthy. So while I do believe it's genetic, I don't believe people can hide behind that. There's ways to get healthy. People just don't try.

    I, for one, can admit that I'm totally lazy. lol I'm not fat. I'm average. I've gained some weight recently and I've made very little attempt to work it off. Because to me, there's more to life than worrying constantly about my muffin top. I'd rather live than struggle to maintain a skinny figure. But if I were to gain so much I'd be considered overweight or even obese, I would definitely worry about it then. Because it is unhealthy! And I don't want to die from something I could've fixed. However, I also don't care how other people look, because their overweight-ness has no effect on me and my life.

    Yanno what does annoy me though? Obese people who use the scooters at grocery stores. If they have a medical condition that prevents them from walking, I can understand. But for the most part, I see that as just plain laziness. If you walked instead of sat down while you shopped, maybe you'd lose a few of those extra pounds.
     
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    Also for @Link the Writer , @Shadowfax and @stevesh - although I don't know if all of you have iPads. But The iPad problem is easy to fix. Just turn 'auto-correct' off. Here's how to do that:
    http://ipad.about.com/od/ipad_basics/ss/How-To-Turn-Off-Auto-Correct-On-The-Ipad.htm

    You can do the same for spellcheck, grammar check, etc. Just turn the facility off.
     
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    Yes, that's good. :)
     
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    How about well-meaning people who blurt out a confidence at EXACTLY the wrong time, in front of the wrong people? OMG. I mean, you can't get mad at them because they mean well, but my god, how embarrassing that can be.

    I remember one incident very vividly. I was only 9 years old, and had developed a crush on a 'new boy' at school. And I made the mistake of admitting this to my best friend at recess. She got really excited, and as soon as we were back in the classroom, she bounced over to his desk and said "Guess what? Jan really likes you!" I mean, in front of everybody. I remember just staring at the top of my desk while all the kids laughed at me. I was too frozen to even look up, I think for the rest of the day.

    As soon as the bell rang I shot out the door and went to my locker to get my stuff to go home. And guess what? When I turned around, my crush was standing right behind me. And he said "Don't feel bad. I don't mind. I like you too." And then he ran off to catch his bus.

    I've never forgotten how that moment made me feel. Unfortunately, only a couple of days later, he stopped coming to school. I found out later that his foster parents had moved away, taking him with them. I never saw him again. I was only 9 years old, and of course I got over it. But that was one of those moments that I'll never forget. He was lovely.

    And yes, I remained good friends with my friend who blabbed. She didn't mean any harm, and I think she only wanted him to KNOW. Turns out, maybe she was right! I'm glad he does know.

    But I never really shared confidences with her again.
     
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    My time around the disabled community taught me to lock away any 'oh poor widdle disabled person' and just treat them like everyone else. But I know what you mean, dude/dudette. Ironic as it may be for this hearing-impaired fella, I find myself feeling sorry for the disabled even when I know they hate that sort of thing. It's human to feel for someone else's pain/difficulty, but just remember that they want to be treated like anyone else. :D

    What annoys me? The fact that it's almost the end of March and it's cold again. Goddamn it, Deep South! >:[ You're supposed to be hot and muggy 24/7, that's like your one job!!

    @jannert - Damn, did she not know how to keep a secret? I'm a great keeper of secrets. How? Easy, I make myself forget whatever you just told me to keep a secret. :D But seriously, there are just some things you should know your friend would rather the world not know about.
     
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    I love this example.
     
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    I wasn't talking about a muffin top or a bit of a podge. I was talking about people who are excessively overweight. We all put on a few pounds now and then, but the people who put on a few pounds and then a few stone and then continue to sit on their arse eating cake until they are obese just irritate me. Then they complain that it is too difficult to lose the weight as if it is someone else's problem, or they lack the intelligence to understand that expending more energy than you take in results in weight loss.
     
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    She was just one of those 'into her head out her mouth' kind of people. Very well-meaning, not a shred of maliciousness. I've had malicious people do stuff like this as well, and believe me, I know the difference. If there was revenge to be had, however, I've had it. I've written this friend in (a very bit part) to my novel! I didn't realise it, until I told the story just now, but she was the model for this character. Funny how stuff like that sticks in your head, eh?
     
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    How very dare you be so insensitive! They're quite clearly just 'big boned'.
     
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    I have been one of those people a couple times in my life. Once I lost the weight, I got really tired of other overweight people asking me how I lost it, and, when I explained in detail the (pretty strict) diet and exercise plans I followed, invariably replied, "Oh, I could never do that." Kind of like people who want to be writers, but don't want to be bothered to learn to write.
     
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    Fair play for getting rid of it.
     

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