The Not Happy Thread

[Link the Writer]

I don't know either and I'm a man. I'll post a theory. Warning: This might offend you. This is because I don't know the man you're speaking of. I don't know if he's always like this.

This is how I set it. There are two types of men. One type are led by their brain. The other type are led by their own primative desires.

The men of the second type, I hypothosize, have never been taught how to think and behave. They're used to getting what they want and pressure others to submit to them.

[Ashleigh]

Well Link, I guess my Matt is type one. <3

My boyfriend has never, ever, ever made me feel bad about stuff like that. There have been times when I'm stressed and just don't want to, and I knew he missed me, but he has always realised that all I needed was time. After that, it's always so much more loving and special.

I wouldn't put up with any pig that acted like it was expected, and my boyfriend would agree with me there.

[Lavarian]

I don't know either and I'm a man. I'll post a theory. Warning: This might offend you. This is because I don't know the man you're speaking of. I don't know if he's always like this.

This is how I set it. There are two types of men. One type are led by their brain. The other type are led by their own primative desires.

The men of the second type, I hypothosize, have never been taught how to think and behave. They're used to getting what they want and pressure others to submit to them.

lol, they're thinking with their other head.

But I think it's all just a bit more complex than just 1 or 2 different types of men. People do different things at different times for different reasons.
Let's also not assume the issue of manipulation to get sexual gratification is reserved only for men.
I have personally experienced it with the opposite sex as well. Sex is more important to some people than it is for others. For instance, some women feel that if their husband/boyfriend doesn't feel like having sex with her, then they must not find her attractive anymore- or that they may not love her anymore. I'm sure this may be a reason with some men too.

More information is needed before we can determine whether Zoe's boyfriend is a bad person. She's with him now, so she must not think he's too bad.
Plus everyone acts like a douche now and again- regardless of upbringing. It's unfortunate that many people outside the relationship only see the bad.

[Eoz Eanj]

My boyfriend is absolutely lovely, so I have no idea why he's been acting the way he has. It's only been the last weekend that he's been like this. I'm freaked out and confused, because I have no idea what's brought this on. My closest guess is that it's because his ex girlfriend, whom he had quite a long relationship with is moving back into town. She broke up with him in a very awful way, and their relationship was full of turbulence because she had a lot of untreated psychological issues. I think the conclusion of their relationship really broke him emotionally, so her return has reawoken buried feelings. What makes this situation so complicated is that because my boyfriend is a forgiving person he has offered to help her and her new boyfriend, get settled back into town upon their arrival. He seems to sincerely want to be friends with them both, which is great, I support it, but it seems to have really messed him up psychologically (I honestly think it's too much, too soon, if that makes sense)

Also, I'm sorry if any men (or women) have taken offence to my generalisation, I know better than to say ridiculous sexist things like that but anger clouds better judgement. I really do sincerely apologise. I seriously shouldn't post when angry.

Thanks Lav for shedding light on the issue, I agree with everything you've said in your post; I'm glad that you're intelligent enough to not jump to the conclusion that my boyfriend is a misogynistic pig based on one silly rage post.

[emily...]

A wonderful friend of mine got her heart broken today. Seeing her in pain makes me sad. Poor thing.

[Gigi_GNR]

Packers lost at the very last second.

[Ashleigh]

lol, they're thinking with their other head.

But I think it's all just a bit more complex than just 1 or 2 different types of men. People do different things at different times for different reasons.
Let's also not assume the issue of manipulation to get sexual gratification is reserved only for men.
I have personally experienced it with the opposite sex as well. Sex is more important to some people than it is for others. For instance, some women feel that if their husband/boyfriend doesn't feel like having sex with her, then they must not find her attractive anymore- or that they may not love her anymore. I'm sure this may be a reason with some men too.

More information is needed before we can determine whether Zoe's boyfriend is a bad person. She's with him now, so she must not think he's too bad.
Plus everyone acts like a douche now and again- regardless of upbringing. It's unfortunate that many people outside the relationship only see the bad.

Lol, I was just replying to Link's idea. I'm not judging anyone's boyfriend, but if there are men who acted with their dicks, then I'd say they were pretty piggish. All I know is my boyfriend isn't, and I'm lucky - my friend has a total sh/t for a boyfriend, even if she'll never see it.

I agree people act differently depending on the situation, so I hope nobody thinks I'm saying men are all the same. That's sexist, especially when I have no idea what the person in question is like.

That would mean I'm not a person who is "intelligent enough to not jump to the conclusion that her boyfriend is a misogynistic pig based on one silly rage post." as Eoz so eloquently put it.

Of course, I'm not that kind of person, and nobody has the right to make that nasty judgement of me. *Halo*

[hiddennovelist]

Why are men so obsessed with sex? When I say I don't feel like it tonight, I really mean I don't feel like it tonight. I'm not your personal sex toy that's ready at your very convenience. I hate, hate feeling pressured.

I have to admit, I giggled a little bit at the first sentence here, because with Joel and I, the stereotypical roles are totally reversed.

That being said, I agree with Rob. And I hope you get things figured out as to why he's being like that. :/

lol, they're thinking with their other head.

Oh, Rob...I would rep you if it would let me...

A wonderful friend of mine got her heart broken today. Seeing her in pain makes me sad. Poor thing.

I'm sorry, Em. I hope she's ok!

[Unit7]

A wonderful friend of mine got her heart broken today. Seeing her in pain makes me sad. Poor thing.

That really sucks.

[Pallas]

I'm a bit discontent as it's the holidays and I'm broke; not that I have anyone to buy materials for, but still...

An acquaintance said I was a scrooge, "but you have to have money to be a scrooge, you mean Grinch," I corrected him, very funny actually.

[Banzai]

So I woke up this morning and headed to the BBC News site, only to find that Leslie Neilsen is dead

The world seems a little less bright now.

[mummymunt]

Yeah, I just found out about Leslie as well. RIP, mate, love ya.

[Ashleigh]

RIP Leslie Nielson - you made Dracula so much cooler.

[Dante Dases]

RIP Leslie Neilsen, indeed.

I have a slight problem of my own. Admittedly, this isn't death, but I'll be damned if it isn't an absolute pain. There's a foot of snow outside. I've battled past it to get into the library and write some of my dissertation. Unfortunately, it appears my knee is insanely sensitive to cold weather, and has decided that I'm not going to get through this cold snap without it seizing up. Possibly in part as a result of the slip yesterday when I nearly managed to dislocate it again.

Oh well. 250 more words on the diss and then home, I think.

[Mercurial]

I've felt like throwing up all day. I feel like I'm going to because of the butterflies in my stomach. They aren't butterflies as much as they are fire-breathing dragons. Or maybe little pushpins jabbing at me.

Tomorrow is going to be a big step for me. I feel like I have been making a lot of them lately. People say that doing these things will make you feel empowered, but all I feel is out of control and horribly exposed. I have been reading a lot, hoping that the information will make me feel more in control. Knowledge is power? Knowledge is only making me feel more afraid, insecure, and doubtful.

[Gigi_GNR]

My mood recently has just been very.... blech.

[Corbyn]

My college, which has been a crappy experience for me at best.. Has decided to once again attempt to screw me over. Had I ever realized what a pain in the neck it was going to be to get an education.. I might have just decided to say forget it. It's not my fault they can't get they're act together, but are they going to own up to that?? No... They're going to charge me an arm and leg on top of what they already took and then they MIGHT.. MIGHT let me away with a piece of paper that says ... yes you can transfer out of here... It just makes me sooo ... *grrrrrrrrrrrrr* MAD!

[star_fire]

hope it gets better for you corbyn ^^

speaking of college.....i room with a bully. a downright horrid, manipulating, terrible person. since i'm laid back and don't really speak up (because the thought of making anyone upset at me really bothers me) i have allowed her to walk all over me. but today i decided enough was enough, dragged her to a meeting with the RA, and had a heart to heart (namely i cried and felt horrible while she continued to make snide remarks) now i am expected back to the room tonight (which i am moving out of as soon as i find someone to room with, and really ticks me off because she's getting her way) so she can "talk" to me.

*snort* yeah, right. screw this, i'm letting loose on her if she insults me in any way.

so yeah, GREAT college experience. wewt! *rolls eyes*

[Unit7]

because the thought of making anyone upset at me really bothers me

I know exactly how you feel on this. I hate the idea of making someone upset at me because of my actions. Not so much because of what they think of me, but because I dislike making anyone upset in general.

Sucks that you have to deal with such a person.

[lilix morgan]

hope it gets better for you corbyn ^^

speaking of college.....i room with a bully. a downright horrid, manipulating, terrible person. since i'm laid back and don't really speak up (because the thought of making anyone upset at me really bothers me) i have allowed her to walk all over me. but today i decided enough was enough, dragged her to a meeting with the RA, and had a heart to heart (namely i cried and felt horrible while she continued to make snide remarks) now i am expected back to the room tonight (which i am moving out of as soon as i find someone to room with, and really ticks me off because she's getting her way) so she can "talk" to me.

*snort* yeah, right. screw this, i'm letting loose on her if she insults me in any way.

so yeah, GREAT college experience. wewt! *rolls eyes*

Hope it goes over well. :/

I know why I'm unhappy. It's 1:12am, and I'm not in bed. Instead, I'm online. My lightbulb burnt out, and I have a phobia of sleeping in the dark, so sleep, while desperately needed, cannot be achieved. And I've had a headache for well over a month now. Standard medication isn't killing the pain like it did the first few times. Anyone know if having a headache and bodyaches for over a month requires seeing a doctor?