When you, as a writer, receive a review, a natural response is to defend what your intent was when you wrote a particular passage. STOP! Sit on your hands, and resist the temptation. Normally when you write a story or poem, that will be your sole communication to the reader. If the reader has misread what you presented, it means that communication has broken down. But don't immediately assume that the reader is overlooking the obvious elegance of what you've written. Yes, it may mean that the reader was not reading carefully enough to capture the nuances you presented. But keep in mind that someone reviewing your writing is probably reading more carefully than the casual reader sitting down with the final product. If a reviewer seems to have missed the point, maybe you didn't make the point well enough in the first place. If it's an important point, make it more than once, in different ways. Let the reader follow more than one road to get there. Another advantage is that the reader may not be certain of your point the first time - he or she may see more than one way to interpret it. Providing more than one path lets the reader confirm that that was indeed the intended point. Remember, when you wrote the piece, you already knew where you were going with it. The reader, however, begins reading with at best an open mind, or at worst is preoccupied with a point completely at odds with yours. If you fail to make your intent clear enough, you the writer have no difficulty staying on track - you already know the destination. The reader, on the other hand, may become lost due to the absence of trail markers, or because he or she didn't happen to see one among the foliage. So if you believe the reader has missed the point, don't chide him or her for it. Consider instead the possibility that you need to mark the trail a little better. Debating the points with the reviewer is more of an ego exercise than anything else. It may simply annoy the reviewer, and others who see your reaction, so they shun you and review other people's work instead. Remember, you asked for an opinion. Don't beat up the person who took the time to provide one. Go out of your way to show gratitude for the effort the reviewer put into it. If you really want to discuss a point they made, ask how you could make it better or clearer instead of telling them what they blundered blindly past. Remember, you asked for an opinion. Don't beat up the person who took the time to provide one. The reviewer is doing you a favor, so check your ego at the door.