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    Confused about her own gender

    Discussion in 'The Lounge' started by Pentip, Apr 11, 2008.

    A question was posed to me earlier today about what a girl would say to being asked out on a date.
    My brother asked me (having been in a similar conversation on another chat room) what I would respond to if I was asked out on a date, giving a situation without history or back ground (writers pay more attention to such details, don't they?). I tried to get some background, and this is what he comes up with: a guy asks me out to dinner (not necessarily a date), alone, in a crowded restaurant. He asked me if I would:

    1. Say no out right.
    2. Say yes just to see if I liked him.
    3. Say yes just because I pity him.

    I said 'say no out right'. He further explained to me that he had been 'chatting' with a girl who had said that all girls would say 2 or 3, and never 1. This is my question and the whole reason for this post: is this true?
    I can think of over half a dozen girls right now who would not, excluding myself. But what about other people? Guys too, would any girl you know say 'no'?
    Here I stand, confused about my own gender. Where has our decency gone?
     
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    Oh good gawd. Do you know how much I love "all", "always", "none" and "never" statements?

    I'll just point out that you proved her full of crap with your response to the question.

    Now I'm certainly not a girl, never have been, and never plan to be; but I do think that girl's answer speaks volumes about her. Not that she is promiscuous, necessarily, but that she has a very distorted view of what is expected of her, and how much free will she accepts that she has.

    Or perhaps she was yanking your brother's chains.
     
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    To quote from my previously favorite author, Tamora Peirce, "One day I would like to read this scholar, everyone. He seems to have written a lot of things, all of it wrong."
    In essence (and in sarcasm as well), I love those statement as well.
     
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    All statements are false.
     
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    I would say yes if I wanted to.
    I would say no if I didn't want to.



    I mean...what other answer is there?
     
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    I think the girl from the chat room has made a very general assumption and like others, I don't agree with it. I'd also most likely say no outright.
     
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    I don't think its very fair to say all girls would answer in a specific way, it depends on the person really. My answer would probably depend on the person asking, if I wanted to get to know them and give them a chance then i'd say yes but if not and I wasn't interested then i'd tell them so.
     
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    Everyone acts in a different way, and frankly your brother's claim that all girls would answer in such a way is rubbish. Gender does have an influence over actions and decisions, but not to that extent. Don't worry about it for even a moment.
     
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    Definitely don't worry about it, i'm sure you're perfectly normal and still a girl ;)
     
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    What is indecent about going on a date?
     
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    What do you mean?
     
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    when I was young and had the opportunity of choice I would first look at the guy. If he was good looking and taller than me I would probably say definetly.
    If he was tall good looking and had money then no question except where are we going.
    If he was tall good looking had money and a really good car then I would say what took you so long.

    as it is I met Don good looking not much money and he drove a 67 Ford Fairlane primer paint and 4 doors.

    so what do young girls know about love and what is important.

    forget about generalities.
    be yourself think for yourself.
     
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    hmm. It depends on the vibe I get off the guy. If he's sleazy and previously seen laughing with his mates at the bar while looking at me, I'd definatly say no. I might say yes but... more than likely no and it depends on my mood
     
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    Not to sound slaggy or anything but I think I would always say yes to a first date. I mean, what harm can it do meeting this person properlly and seeing what happens. Like if a lad asks to go with me, I nearly always say yes, unless of course he is some complete jackass and I allready know this fact
     
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    What if you're not attracted to the guy physically?
     
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    Simple rule.
    No money, no looks, no pleadin', no guts, can get my heart.
    :)
     
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    Wait, so you only go for guys who are unattractive, don't plead and have no courage or money?
     
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    Very wise.

    But watch out for the guy with the scalpel! :eek:
     
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    Ha, wow, I see what you're saying now. I thought you were saying that someone couldn't have or do any of those things to win you over. I'm sorry, I'm so tired. I should go back to bed...
     
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    Connolly, I'm not looking for a dead guy. :p Sleep tight.

    Yikes! Now he can really get my heart! :eek:
     
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    Well, I feel more awake now. When I saw your post, I started laughing really hard since I honestly thought that's what you meant.
     
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    At least I gave you a laugh. :p
     
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    Are you saying that you are always up for a date all the time? We all go through times in our lives where...we just don't want to date, or possibly do anything outside of daily routines, because sometimes you just need to be focused on yourself.

    I know I personally turn down many social requests outside of dating with friends simply because my time to myself is more important.
     
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    Anthrax I like your rules.
    I add a couple has to be taller than me and must have a great car.
    I went on a date with a guy simply because he had a blue convertible challenger. Didn't date him long because he was bald and spent most of his money on his car. Oh yes he also ironed his blue jeans. weird.
     
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    I never understood some female's attraction to men's cars...The only time a guy's car would affect my wanting to date him is if he drove some creepy and dirty pickup truck that reminded me of what a rapist would drive or something...

    That sounds horribly prejudicial, but safety first...and I reserve the right to be judgemental as a human.
     

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