I have been told that men should have main characters as men and likewise for women. I guess they are trying to say that it's much more easier to write a character's gender that is the same to your own. But many author's succeed when writing about the opposite sex. I am writing a novel where the main character is a female, and I am a male. I find it quite difficult to write some things a 23 year old woman would say in certain situations, since the writing is in first person. I am trying to go to the approach that this lady first starts off as someone who doesn't take things seriously, jokes around and criticize people for the small things they do. But as the story progresses, she needs to take the role of a leader to make sure that a task is done, even if it means putting her entire team and her own life in jeopardy. Can someone, possibly a female, help me with this problem?