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    Does the feeling ever get better?

    Discussion in 'General Writing' started by Misha94, Apr 27, 2013.

    I write mostly for pleasure although recently I have been wanting to enter competitions and I just can't seem to shrug the feeling that I'm not good enough. I just hate what I have written after reading it and then I think: 'I'm not good enough to even enter my work.'

    Does this feeling ever get better? I don't want to feel so insecure with myself forever.
     
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    That's similar posts Misha and judging by your location it's obvious you are struggling with something. Like someone said on your other post, some will hate your stories and some will love them. The only way to find out is to grow a really thick akin and submit your work.

    Why don't you check out the forumrules and when you're ready stick something up here?
     
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    My other post? Sorry but this is the first thread I have started, so I'm not quite sure what you mean? As for my location it's just a joke.
     
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    It's funny you mention this Misha because I still struggle with this a lot. I shared a video in the writer's block thread just yesterday that you may enjoy...

    http://vimeo.com/24715531

    I used to feel like the work I created was never up to snuff, and I still feel like that quite often. Which I tell myself is okay because that's what editing is for! :) The feeling does get better, but you may have to wrestle with it a bit. What really helped me was actually putting some of my work out there and getting some feedback. Some of it was good and made me feel great, but the best feedback was when they picked it apart. Other people notice things I don't, and it was a great help to my writing. The trick is to take the criticism in the best light, remember they are helping you, and use it to make yourself better.

    Put yourself out there! Best of luck!

    Cheers,
    Eric
     
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    You will never know unless you try.
     
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    Once you start getting better, it will get better. Also, sometimes it helps if you see things that are far worse than yours. My Warhammer 40,000 sector is original and controversial, but the Stardust Empire was the worst fanfiction most people have ever seen. Even from a writing standpoint and ignoring the rest of the 40k canon, it's a horrible mass of Mary Sues and OMG look how awesome my empire is! You still shouldn't get hung up on the fact that you're better than something that's terrible. The guy who wrote it is a friend of mine, so I gave him his own website to write about it on our server because I wanted to allow him to write what he wanted, even though it didn't fit with out fanfiction website[/tangent]
     
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    I don't think anyone is ever 100% confident in their writing - or at least, very very few people are. But as others have said, as your writing improves, so will your confidence.

    It's scary at first, but it might help to start posting some work, either for contests or critique. It'll help to see where you're at as far as skill goes, and find out what's working at what isn't. Throw yourself out there!

    Honestly, it's totally okay to think you're not the best writer around, even if you've been at it for years. I've noticed that the folks who think they're the best at something tend to stagnate and never make any attempt to improve.
     
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    This is definitely accurate. Plus when you're confident, it's usually when what you write is terrible.
     
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    Thanks for your replies guys. I guess I'm going to have to suck it up and post some of my work. I suppose the feeling of insecurity could be turned into something positive and used as a basis for improvement.
     
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    I think lack of confidence is something that comes and goes. Even when you've been writing for a long time, you wake up one morning, look at your WIP and it's turned into garbage over night. I take this as a sign it's time to put it aside and work on another story for a week or more. Fresh eyes can make a huge difference.
    Also, don't expect to reach perfection. The only time I couldn't find anything else to tweak, my beta reader showed me exactly how wrong I was lol.

    Good luck.
     
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    This sort of thing happens to me. I can read over a scene I wrote and think it's the best thing ever written, then the next day I read the same scene and think it's embarrassing garbage. The words didn't change, but something about my mood did. It's very hard to judge one's own work.

    This is why people recommend that you let a piece of writing sit for a while (several weeks, usually) before revising it. You need the distance. My guess is that you aren't as bad as you think you are. Give yourself a chance!
     
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    Being a good artist is learning to balance a massive ego and tremendous self loathing.

    You have to keep working at it. If you want it to go some place don't give up and keep trying and writing. I used to feel the same way as you do. I'm still self conscious of my work sometimes but I have confidence in it now. I've learned a lot and I'm starting to feel more capable and it feels great. So hang in there. :)
     
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    Thanks to all for your nice comments. It is a struggle when you feel as though everything you have written is terrible. I mean of course I am probably my own worst critic and I probably see things in a warped way but nevertheless it's difficult.
    I'll keep working at it and put my work out there for review (it's the only way to know for sure whether I actually do suck!)
     
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    Fixed that for you. :)
     
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    The feeling does get better, and though it gets better as your writing gets better, this is the basis for it all: You need positive comments. Just hearing an editor say "Wow" or even a peer saying kudos makes even the most horrible works feel good.

    One needs to realize that the feeling basically never goes away; after all, writing is a way to get our feelings onto the paper that we write. We do come up with a certain hidden truth that way, but discovering something is not necessarily good. A famous author once said "each work has killed me a little bit more", and though a tragic statement, we need to cope with the feeling best we can.

    All I can say is not to give up. Understand that your writing WILL get better, and you WILL feel better. It's happened to me and it's happened to everyone else to feel insecure; it happens to the best of them to wake up one morning and say "I'm a terrible writer" - it's natural to say. But follow what I told you. Meet up with people and share your work. Receive some nice / kind words. They will help you, I promise.
     
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    Do you live somewhere that is large enough to have a writing group you could go to?

    After years and years of writing and firmly believing that I was terrible at it, I eventually joined a local writing group. They are the sweetest group. Really supportive and friendly. Everybody in the group feels insecure about their own writing but we turn up and we support each other. It really does help to part of something like that if it's possible. If not, hopefully this on-line community can help in the same way. :)

    T
     
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    I know exactly how you feel. I will write down 2,000 words, then go through a quick edit and think, thats pretty good. Then the next day I'll read it and be depressed for two more days thinking its horrible.... then I'll come back a week later, read it again and think its great again... Up and down emotional roller coaster ride.

    I just remember that first and foremost I'm doing this for me, whether it's great or not, I still want to write....so I write.
     
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