1. The Bard of Wigan
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    Have you ever tried online dating?

    Discussion in 'The Lounge' started by The Bard of Wigan, Mar 12, 2009.

    I don't necessarily mean a dating site but just on-line?

    Like on a message board like here where you see desperate sorts constantly bombarding another with messages and always answering their threads. Sometimes it's even when they know the other person has a significant other.

    I guess if you spend all your time on-line you aint got a lot of choice.
     
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    Oh and before the paranoia kicks in, I don't mean on here.
     
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    I guess since the err, somewhat accusatory word 'desperate' has been thrown in, I doubt there'll be many replies in the affirmative... :p

    Most of the people that I know - including myself ;) - on any real level are not online looking for relationships, or that other - more nefarious - practice known as cybering... (The first time that word was mentioned to me, I had to ask what it meant :eek:) but I know people that have formed romantic relationships online, with varying degrees of success. I did, in fact, once give someone my mobile number - but backed out of meeting them after they started messaging me constantly and then, if I didn't respond immediately, rang me and hung up after I answered... >_>
     
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    I've met a couple of people in person from an on-line dating site. One of them has become a good friend. Never considered it on a site that wasn't meant for it.
     
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    I wouldn't say .. dating..

    but I've met a few of my friends on myspace..

    = D
     
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    I have never met anyone online and then dated them. There are people I know in the real world, even people I have dated, with whom I mostly communicated through the computer. When you don't live close or go to different colleges etc, it is convenient. I have never been to an online dating site. I do not judge those who have. I know a few people who have met their spouse online. Of course, I have known people who are now divorced who met their spouse online.
     
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    If I met someone online and really clicked with them, I'd consider it, but I wouldn't go on sites just looking to date people.
     
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    There are a few of those that pretty much stalk my boyfriend. It's annoying, but they live thousands of miles away, so who cares? lol they can dream.
     
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    Yeah, sorry about that. :p


    I've never tried the online dating thing. I've always conceded that seeing as I'm such a git in real life then it'd probably get amplified when I try an online dating site.

    I don't know the reasoning behind it, it just does.
     
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    If anything you should like that they drool over him. :p It's a bit of an ego boost when your dating someone that other people dream about having.
     
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    Yeah, i dont blame them lol :p

    But at the same time, such a person becomes irritating when they talk to my boyfriend, flirt, comment every one of his pictures, try and get his attention...

    and then not speak to me lol.

    I dunno, i'm not bothered so much 'cos he's just too nice to tell them that it creeps him out, but i just dont think its healthy to try and involve yourself so much in someones life when you've not even *met* them and never will.

    I mean people can think what they like of Matt, but they dont *know* him.
    Not like i do.

    I would say one of the dangers of getting online crushes is that you dont know the *real* them, how they are day to day, how they really look outside of a good photo, or how they speak and communicate.

    He's alot different IRL and that's the guy i love -where as they only like the person they've imagined him to be.

    IDK, It's a bit creepy really.
     
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    I think it would be really hard to find someone you like online. You would realllly have to be messaging back and forth for a looooong time to get the real character of someone else. It is good to make friends online forsure. That being said, I have never even met anyone online that I have had a really friendly connection with. Don't get me wrong, I have online friends, but noone that I would consider a forever friend. (no offense you all haha)

    Maybe it is because I am not looking for either?
     
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    I already forgot what the original question (or observation) was exactly, but reading through this whole thread has gotten me thinking about why I come here. It's sort of like an 'instant' community gathering with people that share a common interest.
    My life doesn't really allow all that much real-life, social interaction...occasionally at parks or 'mom' meetings, but they're so rushed and not very relaxed. This is a way for me to come and have some 'grown up' socialization when the moment allows. I usually get pretty freaked out if any one person pays too much attention to me.

    :rolleyes: Who knew, years ago when we all first thought 'The Borg' were so scary, that we would one day willingly submit ourselves to a 'cyber community'? Well, we can't read each others minds... but you know what I mean. LOL.
     
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    Hah, I still think the borg are scary. :D

    I love the thing about putting personal details online. I saw some stand-up comedian who said that:
    "We're so careful about giving away details! No-one wants to give their details to anyone. Unless they're on MySpace. Or they want porn." :D
     
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    Oh..I am not a private person in person either. It really is a problem. I totally give out TMI. Embarrasses the heck out of my husband.
     
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    Hey embarrassing your spouse from time to time with tmi is part of your responsibility when in a relationship. :p
     
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    Lmao 'Mina, i'll tell you mine if you tell me yours :rolleyes: haha.
     
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    Hmmm... done the online "friendships", dating, (how do you think I ended up in Ireland :eek:) and I've come to a clear conclusion...
    ... never again! :eek:
     
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    Many years ago i met a few people from online that i had spoken to for a while.... There was about 20 of us that had spoken online and just did a meet....

    One of the girls liked me but there was no way it was ever eer going to work. It seems people are more over hte top online, and when you meet them it was way to silent for my likiing.

    This person kept trying online for a few weeks until i blicked them ;)

    That's as locse as i got
     
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    I've dated a couple people who I met online, though I didn't initially talk to them for that purpose. One of them saw some of my artwork, and tracked me down by Googling me. We had a brief relationship, and are still close friends. Another one was a guy I messaged during the summer I lived in Maryland, because I needed someone to pal around town with. We developed a friends-with-benefits thing. Nothing serious.

    I'm a member on another message board whose registration has been closed for a couple years. Everyone knows everything about everyone. There are two couples who have met on there and married, and two more who are engaged. It's weird, but I've known all these people for years, and heard all their ups and downs, and shared my own. They're like my extended social circle. And it's cool that, almost anywhere in the world I go, there is someone from that board living nearby who I can visit.

    My boyfriend (who I did not meet online!) thinks it's weird.
     
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    I used to have "online boyfriends" when I was 12-15. I met my boyfriend on a forum when I was 15 and he was 17. It was online only for a long time, he lived in a different state. We have a kid together now, 8.5 years later. It's still weird to me that it turned into a real thing.
     
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    I've never dated someone who I met online, but in my last relationship we depended on the wonders of Email and Instant Messenger; our lives frequently take us both out of town, and we dont live in the same city anyway.

    I suppose if I met someone online who I really did like, I'd consider it. It's still a little 'weird' to people, including myself, so I have my reserves, but when it comes down to it, you're just meeting someone. I know a lot of people who met over the phone, and that's not "weird," you know?
     
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    To add to what I said earlier, I think it's possible to meet someone that you could have a long relationship with anywhere. Hell, is it really that much odder to have met your boyfriend/girlfriend at a grocery store, on a bus or at work like others have?
     
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    Perfectly stated.

    I am going on two years now together with William. We met on-line. No shame to my game. :rolleyes:
     
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    I think meeting online is almost nicer, really. Meeting in a forum or on a dating site (whatever), you already know you have something in common, and you generally go into things without judging. I like that about the online world --the anonymity until you decide to give that up. And by that time, hopefully no one would judge you based on your gender, skin, size, religion, locaiton, whatever. :) You're just a person in the world with the same tool that another person has.
     

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