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    I love you Mum

    Discussion in 'The Lounge' started by Eoz Eanj, Dec 19, 2009.

    Approximately four hours ago my Mum died suddenly from heart failure. The doctors did all they could to revive her but it was not successful. It's only been a few hours since her passing and I am still in shock, especially because I was on the phone with her when she abruptly lost her breath and collapsed.

    Tomorrow, I am flying back to Perth, (I have been staying with my boyfriend and his parents for a couple of weeks), to be with my family and to say goodbye to my Mum before she is cremated. Thus, needless to say, I will be away from the forum for a while.

    Just to everyone here at the forum, thankyou for being so friendly and helpful, I really do appreciate it, and hopefully, later on next year I will be back as an active member.

    Also, on another note, I suggest that everyone gets up and tells their Mother that they love them. I'm probably just babbling because I'm still very upset, but seriously, whatever the situation between yourself and your Mother, just get up and tell them that you love them, because honestly, I should have told my Mother more often, and you never know when someone you love so dearly is just going to suddenly slip away.

    I love you Mum, forever. You are my angel.
    Rest in peace.
    22/01/1961- 20/12/2009.
     
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    *hugs* Zoe you are a fantastic person, and I know how much you loved your Mum. I'm sorry to hear this. :(
     
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    I am so sorry for your loss, Zoe.
    I can't imagine how tough that would be and I will follow your advice straightaway.

    I know it isn't much, but you will be in my thoughts and prayers.

    All the best,

    Rob
     
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    I am sorry, Zoe. :( I don't really know anything to say that would sound comforting when something like that happens... I cannot imagine that there is something to say that would make it less painful, but I'll be thinking of you. Hugs.
     
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    My sympathies Zoe, You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. Travel safe and let us know how your doing when you can. *hugs*

    ~JG
     
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    My deepest condolences, Zoe.

    Keep your friends close, and allow yourself to grieve. There's no prize for convincing everyone that you're "doing just fine."

    Feel what you feel, when you're ready to feel it. Don't panic if what you feel at any particular moment isn't what you think you should feel, either. Your emotions will be all over the place, and some may confuse the hell out of you.
     
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    Great advice Cog
     
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    I am so sorry, Eoz. Please take care of yourself. ~marina
     
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    I'm so sorry for your loss, I know there really isn't much I can say, just now that I am thinking of you.
     
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    Zoe, I am terribly sorry to hear of the loss of your mother. She was too young for this to happen. I share your feelings about failing to tell a parent how much you love them, and I promise you a time will come when your memories of your mother will bring you great comfort. It is through those memories that she will continue to be an important part of your life. Please accept my deepest condolences.
     
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    Zoe, I am really sorry darlen. Don't be hard on yourself though, your mother knew that you loved her and she will always be a part of you.

    My sincere condolences to you and your family at this time. I only wish there was something more I could do to help. If you ever need to talk, I'm always there for you darl.

    Big hugs to you and I really am so very sorry for your loss. Take as much time as you need to grieve, and I hope to see you back one day.

    Sherie
     
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    i'm so sorry to hear of your loss, zoe... it was good of you to take time to post your very valuable advice, in the midst of your grief... i hope all take it to heart... i only wish my own estranged kids could see it...

    love and consoling hugs, maia
     
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    I am so sorry for you Zoe. :(

    *hugs*
     
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    Oh, Zoe, I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you and your family/friends are able to draw on each other for support as you go through this sad time. I'll be sending lots of internet hugs and loving thoughts your way!
     
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    Sorry to hear this I know it doesn't help to in anyway imply I know who you feel, but I lost my father back in April. Keep people in the loop and do what you have to do. Take care.

    -Sid.
     
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    Oh, my goodness. Zoe, I'm so sorry for you. This must be a nightmare, and I hope you're all right. You have very good advice, and I will act on it immediately. I am not always so kind to my mother.

    You're a strong girl, but Cog's advice, as usual, is pretty fantastic. If you need to talk to someone you dont need to face in the morning, I'm always around if you need anything.
     
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    I'm so sorry for your loss, Zoe. You and your family are in my prayers this holiday season. :(
     
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    I'm so sorry, my deepest condolences to you and your family.
     
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    This is happend to my mother, her mom had a heart defect and died abruptly; I've seen how hard it is to deal with this. I'm sorry this happened, you're in my prayers.
     
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    Deepest sympathies Zoe.
     
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    Just seen this thread.

    So so sorry for your loss, words cannot even begin to explain it.

    Stay strong, I'm sure your Mum would want you to do the same. xxx
     
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    Deepest sympathies, I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how you must feel.
     
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    Lots of love and hugs and prayers for all of you. I'm sure that your mother knew how much you loved her, and you'll always know aswell so don't give yourself a hard time.

    If you need anything - you know where we all are.

    God bless,

    Rachel xxx
     
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    My deepest sympathies, Zoe. You're a great person and I'm sure your mother rests in peace proud of the fact that she helped you become the person you are.

    Like others, I'm always here if you want a supportive shoulder. I'll pray for you and family.

    Bhagwan Aunty ki aatma ko shanti de.
    (May her spirit rest in peace).
     
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    I just wanted to say thankyou to everyone for their condolences- all your thoughts and well-wishes have really shone a warm light upon me. I am sorry I did not reply any sooner, I have been busy arranging my Mum's funeral and preparing for Christmas.

    Thankyou again,

    Zoe.
     

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