So, I'm new here, but I'm stuck with something, and I'm hoping I'm either not alone, or someone can help. My current WIP is disjointed and a little hard to describe at the minute (for some reason it's insisting on being written in pieces, and joined up later...), but the main character is female, and in a relationship. She also happens to be gay, but I don't think this has anything do to with the issue I'm having. There are certain intimate scenes that feel (currently anyway) that they need to be included in what is gearing up to be at least a R16 type story, but I can quite happily write them at the time, be quite happy with them - I go back and read them and cringe, and fight the urge to just delete them and leave them out. I think I written one of them three times - and finally have just changed the page when I wanted to delete it!. Is it just me feeling uncomfortable about the sex scenes? Or do others who don't normally write erotica (and it's not erotica in the story) feel the same way? I wonder if it's cause I'm not doing it justice, or maybe not portraying it accurately. The...mechanics of the scene is not the problem...this particular character's gender and sexual orientation match my own (that is ALL that is similar though). It's the comfort level I have after writing it. Weirdly enough, some traumatic scenes in it, I can work through, and sit easily with my discomfort as the scene is supposed to be uncomfortable, but the sex scenes shouldn't be....should they?