I am still trying to find a balance for one of my novel's viewpoint characters, a balance between realistic grief and keeping the reader from shouting "Stop weeping and get on with it!" The character in question is a princess, nineteen years old, who watched her mother commit suicide in what appeared to be a fit of insanity (emphasis on appeared, but that's for another time). She not only feels responsible, having stood there and watched while it happened, but is pressured by her own sensibilities to get rid of the grief and form a new mode of life as quickly as possible. No one has really told her that you never quite "get over" the loss of a loved one, but you learn to accept it. The princess and her adopted sister are completely bewildered, since they have no idea why Mother would kill herself. It might also be worthwhile to mention that she has only been a princess for four years; the previous king was assassinated, and her politician father was elected to take his place. She is used to the formality and pomp of life for a leader's daughter, but she hasn't been in the royal life for too long. But both forms of life are forming her attitude towards grief. She finds herself caught between missing her mother, and trying to dry her eyes and go back to as much of her previous life as possible. So, my question is, where do you think a good balance would lie for her to grieve like a real woman would? As opposed to forgetting the importance of her mother's loss, or becoming so obsessed with it that the suicide gets mentioned in every paragraph. How long should she go until she's not thinking about Mother all of the time? Thank you all for your time.