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    Sex Scenes

    Discussion in 'General Writing' started by Dylan_Anderson, Aug 30, 2012.

    My latest Story calls for a sex scene (or two) I've never written one before until now and it's not easy. The challnge seems to be a walking the line between two extremes.

    On one hand I don't want it to be too prudish or coy, it needs to be sexy and lustful.

    On the other hand I don't want it to go overboard, I'm trying to write literature not porn.

    Any advice on how to walk this tightrope effectively?
     
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    I've written a few, and really, you can imply the scene if you feel uncomfortable writing it.
     
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    Write it in a romantic way without desscribing the characters' genitals. Show how they are feeling as they embrace each other on the bed.
     
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    Less is really more with sex scenes. Don't make it too mechanical, and don't make it too cheesy. Don't over-describe, and it's alright to be abstract and leave it to the reader's imagination. It's almost certainly better than you are.
     
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    I haven't written a lot of them, but I prefer to read and write from the POV of what the characters are feeling (physically and emotionally) rather than having a description of the action (most of those range from ridiculous "naming of parts" to sounding like a medical journal).
     
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    You could probably read Fifty Shades of Grey and do the exact opposite...
     
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    Couldn't have said it better!

    Even if it IS a best smeller.
     
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    Shadow's advice is right on -- to concentrate on what the characters are thinking. There is a good book on this called The Joy of Writing Sex that talks about this very issue and I found very helpful. Also, for some good info on what not to do, google the Bad Sex in Fiction Awards, which are given every year by a British literary journal. They are really amusing. And some very high profile and respected authors have been finalists and won the "award."
     
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    I WANT A SEX SCENE!
    YOU GOT A SEX SCENE?
    GIVE ME THAT SEX SCENE!
    I WANT THAT SEX SCENE!
    GIVE ME THAT SEX, SEX,SEX
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    SEX,SEX,SEX,SEX,SEX,SEX,SEX SCENE!
    SEX,SEX,SEX,SEX,SEX,SEX,SEX,SEX,
    SEX,SEX,SEX,SEX,SEX,SEX SCENE!
    SEX,SEX,SEX,SEX,SEX,SEX,SEX,
    SEX,SEX,SEX,SEX,SEX,SEX SCENE!

    I just came up with that song.
     
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    In serious fiction, I almost always find sex scenes embarrassing. I mean, as I read them, I feel embarrassed for the writer. I find them almost always unintentionally comical. I avoid sex scenes in my own writing. I just imply that sex has taken place by having characters wake up in each other's arms or some such lameness. Better than writing an actual sex scene, in my view.
     
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    I'm having trouble myself with something similar - not a sex scene but a romantic kiss scene that the novel's been building up to. I think I'm gonna have a go at it - not for my novel but for practice first - and post it onto the workshop! Maybe you should do that too?
     
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    Talk about sweaty hip thrusts and grunts. That should work perfectly every time.
     
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    Using the word throbbing only to refer to a head ache... (same goes for pulsating...maybe a heart is OK)...I agree with most of what is said. As with the movies it is the crescendo that leads up to the scene hat has most of my attention, and then maybe the kiss, but after that an allusion to what happens instead of a blow by blow description (OK no pun intended...really!!) is what I would want to read.
     
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    How about starting the scene after the fact? - them talking post-coitus. They can be cute and sexy n'
    slightly sweaty and out of breath - in bed - or off to the shower. That way you don't have to convince
    the reader how great it was with a lot of description or cheesy metaphors. Just have them talk -
    Did I get your g spot that time. G spot? You got me from a-z! ( ha! ha! - okay, that's a little cheesy )

    Don't approach it as just a sex scene - it's your characters having sex - it's there scene -
    what would they be like in bed, what are their reactions , emotions - what's their agenda?
     
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    Or machine noise on a spaceship.
     
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    Ever hear of the ten second kiss? Its just a simple lip to lip kiss that is very erotic for both parties. You just press your lips together and do nothing else other then hold that kiss for ten seconds. If you can kiss your girl with that kiss and ask her what she's feeling, you'll know what to write.
     

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