I actually need a little advice about something. Y'all are generally older than me, so maybe your life experience will come in handy. 1) I don't know exactly why, but when I date for some reason I've always been put in the awkward feminine position. Like I guess because I tend to have more flamboyant mannerisms and I date a few years older ordinarily. But I don't really understand why society even has to do thin anymore. I always feel incredibly weird about a guy coming to my house any bringing me flowers or a stuffed animal when I don't have anything to give him and I sure as hell hate when guys insist that I let them pay for me. Like I can sort of see back in the day, when the world was more patriarchal and women were stay at home moms. But this is 2013, women work just as much as men, so as gender is more equal, why do people within gay relationships still follow the heterosexual normative. Like why does it always seem like one person is put in the more passive role in relationships? Do the people that pay feel like they are putting themselves in a more dominant role by paying? Or even more, do they think that their partner now owe them something? (So that was my first rant) 2) I have a really close friend named Tom, I've known him since February. We actually dated for a very brief time. I've been basically single since then and he's had a string of affairs and relationships that haven't ended well. And though out that I really think I have been a good friend to him, he even reminds me of it too. Even though we're the same age, he only after we dated started going through some of the things I did, so I was able to help him as much as I could. So, he kinda like always makes excuses to give me presents. Like one time I had swollen ankle, he game me a stuffed animal, candy, a magazine, and silly putty. Then last week, I mentioned how school was stressing me out, he gave me another stuffed animal and candy. I know they're not huge things but I just feel awkward accepting these things. After the ankle thing, he had a birthday, so I was able to get him stuff. But now I feel like every time I see him he'll try to give me something. And he admitted like a month ago that he still had feelings for me, but he was at a low point when he told e that. So what do I do. Keep accepting the gifts? Talk to him or something? I just don't understand how to go about doing this.