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I was hoping for something like this to save my butt. What do you do when you really like a girl, and you have danced with her a couple time; you want to ask her out. Then some "friend" tells her that you like her. (It stinks!). But the rumor spread to "You're obsessed with her." I mean, its just a good healthy "like", not obsession. How might someone solve this? I plan to ask her to dance (for the second time), and ask her out then. How might I ask her out? -Thomas
First and foremost, be confident in yourself. Just stroll right up to her and tell her you'd like to take her to the dance. Don't let your voice break, don't break eye contact with her, just do it. If she says no to you after that, she would have said no to you whether or not your friend started the rumor.
I'd say go for it and ask her out. If she trusts some rumor rather than asking the truth then maybe she's not really worth it.
aye mate, just go for it. The worst that can happen is she says no, and in that case so what, ya move on.
Age doesn't matter, if you totally like the person. I mean look at David Beckham, Posh is a year older....though I have to say, he's totally wasted on her, he sho cute, and she's so, well, whatever. But yeah, I dun see any problem in dating anyone older. She's even in the same grade!!
Most girls don't go for guys who are younger than they are in my experience, but if she's for it, what do you have to lose?
I agree with Mark there.....I for one would not go with any guy, younger than me, even if he was in the same class, unless i like him like, forever or something. I mean my sister's friend's boy-friend is one class her junior, though he's the same age. And we make such fun of her.
Not in high school. Especially if your a girl. If he's 2 years older and in the same grade as you I'd wonder if there are some issues he may be dealing with?
Relax, relax, relax..be yourself, don't act cool. Don't rush, move slow, look her in the eyes, smile, always smile, say hello, then just say something nice like: "You look nice today" or some genuine complement. Keep smiling and looking into her eyes...wait for her to say something. You're on you own after that, everything will be OK. Ladies of the forum, how would you respond to a young man approaching you like that? What else would you suggest?
I thought things were changing in India and women were starting careers and holding off to get married?
Oh well, they are, but I'm not sure my parents' would wait that long. The way i'm planning stuff, I should have an at least 100 grand pr month job by the time I'm 27, so it goes right. Though if it doesn't, thn...*shrug* topic....she will go if she's already been to dances with him before.
I would just caution Plain Pioneer that this girl, like every girl he knows, will fall into one of three categories: interested in dating him having no particular interest in him, but willing to go on a date with him and see how it goes. not interested in dating him By asking her out, you will quickly determine whether she falls into the first to categories or the not interested category. If she falls into the not interested category, your feelings may be hurt, but unless she turns you down rudely, be a gentleman, don't talk bad about her to anyone else, and accept that she isn't interested (without demanding a reason!) and find someone else to be interested in. No person ever owes another person a reason for declining a date. If someone says "No thank you" or "I am not interested", be polite and let it go. In Pioneer's case, he may want to address the obsession rumor when he talks to her: "I hear there's a rumor going around that I am obsessed with you. I want to assure you it isn't true. I am just a regular guy, not some creepy stalker. It is true that I think you're really cool/smart/pretty/whatever, and would like to go out with you" and etc
I disagree man, you're laying it on way too thick with that. Just ask her to the dance. Don't tell her she looks pretty, or that you really respect her, just ask her to the damn dance. If she says no, you wouldn't have had a chance with her anyway. If she does say no, just find someone else. There are more than enough pretty girls in the world.
Thanks for all your opinions and thoughts. It helped a lot. I feel all of you said important things. I will ask her to dance, but I may chicken out to ask her out. Kids at my school say that girls who know someone likes them, generally like that person back. Do you think this is true? Others have said that she would be happy someone wants to go on a date with her. I mean, she isn't in the popular crowd, which makes my happy. Really, thanks! -Thomas
You sound like a strong willed assertive young man and what you do may work for you very well but PP seems a little different. To each his own, use whats works for you, the ladies will surly let you know. Smiling at a women and giving her a complement is never wrong if you are sincere.
uh......Thomas, kids and people say a lot of stuff. For once stop listening to others, nd listen to the "voice". And she SHOULD be happy. Unless she's too sarcastic like me.
No. It may happen sometimes, and at others not, every person is different. Just ask her, like other have said, the worst that can happen is that she says no, but then you'll have a lot more to choose from.
First of all, don't chicken out. If you do, you're just setting yourself up for profound amounts of misery. The fear of rejection can be very poignant, but it doesn't hurt nearly as bad getting rejected as it does wallowing in misery at something that you're too scared to approach. Initially, the key to getting anywhere with women is confidence. That statement about girls liking someone back who likes them is flat out not true. If it were, I think a lot of single guys would suddenly be in relationships with Jessica Alba and Scarlett Johansson. I used to be scared of asking girls out, then I decide that life's too short to be single. Now, I'm in a very solid relationship that I wouldn't have ever had if I hadn't put myself out there. If you don't put yourself out there, you're going to be alone. So do yourself a favor: Next time you see this girl, just ask her. The worst that can happen is that she'll say no. @rickiewrites - I can see where you're coming from with complimenting girls. I think that once you get to know them, that's a great thing to do. But when you barely know somebody, and you're trying to get somewhere with them romantically, the best thing you can do is be assertive and play it cool.
Yeah, girls often tend to think you're hitting on them hen you're way too complimentary...lol...yeah yeah, the fair sex ain't all that "fair"
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