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    The Hardest Thing You Have Eve Done?

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    For me it has to be learning to ride a bike.
    Boy that was horrible. Still it is done.
    That is one thing out of the way.
     
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    here, too, it's impossible for most of us to pick 'the' hardest...

    so, 'one' of the hardest of all for me was having to go on welfare to support my 5 kids whose dad wouldn't pay any child support or alimony... not that it was physically 'hard' like learning to ride a bike, but emotionally hard and debasing, plus knowing that my children felt ashamed about it...
     
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    Two tied: caretaking my dad (cancer), caretaking my mom (dementia). Close second: dealing with the combined sorrow and relief when they each passed away.
     
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    sorry to hear about your children..I grew up not knowing my dad who did not pay my mother child support.
    She brought us up the four of us without the support of my father's money.
    I know I did not feel ashamed about it neither did I think about it.
    I agree it is emotionally hard but money is not ultimately everything and yes it is unjust and he shouldn't have gotten away with it.
    I blame the system for not keeping up with him.
     
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    That is very hard but it is very commendable of you tohave looked after them.
    That must have paid off one way or another because at least you know you were there for them.
    I cannot imagine how hard it must have been to deal with dementia..it must have been exhausting for you.
     
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    I don't know what the HARDEST thing I've ever done is, but one of them was coming out to my Dad. He was always a pretty conservative guy, and I thought he'd disown me. It turns out that he was a bit hurt that I didn't trust him that much. He said "Did you think I was a barbarian?"

    He and I became a little closer after that. I miss him a lot.
     
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    aww...what a touching story.
    Were you scared of your dad?
     
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    There's been many hard or difficult things I've had to do. One I would feel happy sharing (although it's not the hardest) was giving birth to my second child knowing I nearly died giving birth to the first.
     
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    so sorry to hear it...was there a reason why it was a difficult birth?
     
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    Hi Cacian,
    Pregnancy is classed as "high risk" for me. The first time I lost 3 pints of blood and needed a blood transfusion and there was a strong possibility it would happen with subsequent births. The worst thing wasn't death, it was the thought of leaving my babies without a mother and how unfair that would be.
     
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    sorry to hear it...you are a truly strong person for having gone through it bravely second time.
    I admire your strenght and faith and I am so glad to hear all you are safe and well and children too.:)
     

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