The Not Happy Thread

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    Oh, no! Gig can only text now. Everyone, stop talking to her and get online to WF.

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    Aw, sorry. The corner of my mouth was split the other day. Where I live it's very dry.
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    The doctor called. They think I have Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. They're sending me to a specialist to test me for who knows what else. This in and of itself really sucks. PCOS is a primary cause of fertility problems. But I think the only thing that's worse is the number of people who had pushed me into going now saying "aren't you glad you went?"

    Because, no, I'm not glad. I'm not glad I went at all. And it feels like it's being thrown back in my face. Fantastic.
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    So sorry, Em. :( That's awful...hopefully their suspicions aren't correct.

    FB chat is playing up so I couldn't see anything you were saying to me. Fingers crossed there aren't any more issues and you can get on with life asap. x
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    That's horrible, Emily. :( I hope it's not the case...

    And those people saying that is kind of... mean, in a way.
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    Been there. :( I was diagnosed with PCOS about two years ago probably? It is awful... To be honest I felt less like a woman, at first, robbed that I was going to have a lot more trouble than most women would doing something that we're all basically supposed to be able to do.

    I'm sorry you're really unhappy and I totally understand why, but I also understand why people would be happy that you went and saw an endocrinologist or a specialist or whoever. I know it seems awful now, but it's just a syndrome --not a disease or disorder, so, no, it cant be "cured" but it can be treated really well.

    Some of the classic symptoms of PCOS can be really easily treated and even eradicated with some medication, monitoring of hormones, and proper diet and exercise (some foods are bad for PCOS women). For me, birth control as medication has been incredibly really helpful. I hope that if this is an option for you, you are not met with opposition from the people of your church... as long as you aren't using it for it's more commercial purpose and it is only helping you live a healthier life, I hope it doesn't cause problems for you.

    In the end though, if you want to talk about how you're feeling to someone who may not understand exactly but who has been given the same diagnosis and has some of the same symptoms, my PM box is always open!

    Feel better, love. I hope that your case is not severe. Mine is moderate... I know it can seem like the end of the world, and I'm not trying to minimize the effect of the diagnosis on your future, but it really will get better! :love:
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    Aww, I'm sorry, Em. :( And I'm sorry I disappeared from FB earlier, I had to run to work. Bah.

    It's crappy that people are saying that, it is like they're just throwing it in your face. Tell them all that I said to shut up.
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    Oh, I'm so sorry. Em, that is awful to hear. :( But through all of that be positive. From what you say, it doesn't sound definite.
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    My sadness isn't anywhere as bad:

    I was doing a character bio for one of my characters and lo a heartbreaking tale of a mother being seperated from her eight-year-old son during a war that killed her husband unfolded before my eyes. It didn't help that the setting was seven years after the fact in a totally different country and the plot had nothing to do with reuniting with said mother. The mother either died of a broken heart or married someone else, never meeting her son again.

    I want to take back what I wrote, give the character his mom again, but...this is what it has to be. :( Not fair!
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    I can relate. You know a plot has to be a certain way as soon as it forms in your mind. But then there is no altering it. I make one of my characters blind in one eye and deaf in one ear. I think that is the worse I can do to him.
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    omg, I'm blind in one eye and deaf in one ear myself! :D

    My poor orphan character is blind (and fifteen). Yeah. Blind and seperated from his family forever during a war. That can not be healthy on his psychology.​
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    Oh, I did not know. You're just a regular guy to me. :) My character, Dennis O' Sullivan becomes blind and deaf by shrappnel from a cannon ball. I'm happier with this idea. The alternative would have been death by a cannon ball in battle. I couldn't do that to this character. I like his personality.
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    For some reason i can't access hotmail and facebook. This site lags hardcore for me as well.

    Might have to read a book and watch the Ashes.
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    Have you ever gone to sleep and woke up thinking its been hours since you went to bed, only to look at the clock and see its been maybe an hour?

    Pretty much what happened to me this morning. I had gone to bed and when I woke up I thought I had slept a long time, maybe longer then usual, only to learn I was asleep for maybe an hour and a half.

    I really really hate that. Even when I have long dreams and sleep for seven hours it always feels so fast. When I wake up, I know a good amount of time has gone by but it doesn't feel like it.

    So when this happens to me it always seems to put me in a crappy mood. Mostly because it will be another hour(if I am lucky) before I fall asleep again. Today it was more like 2 hours. :(
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    ^ That happens a lot to me.

    I couldn't get to sleep for ages yesterday because I kept coughing. I hate having a cold. :( And I've just burnt my tongue on chicken soup. And I'm panicking a bit about this essay I have to do due in a week and it's scary because it's the first assessment that's actually going to count towards my degree. Arghh.
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    Why are men so obsessed with sex? When I say I don't feel like it tonight, I really mean I don't feel like it tonight. I'm not your personal sex toy that's ready at your very convenience. I hate, hate feeling pressured.
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    I don't know either and I'm a man. I'll post a theory. Warning: This might offend you. This is because I don't know the man you're speaking of. I don't know if he's always like this.

    This is how I set it. There are two types of men. One type are led by their brain. The other type are led by their own primative desires.

    The men of the second type, I hypothosize, have never been taught how to think and behave. They're used to getting what they want and pressure others to submit to them.
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    Well Link, I guess my Matt is type one. :love:

    My boyfriend has never, ever, ever made me feel bad about stuff like that. There have been times when I'm stressed and just don't want to, and I knew he missed me, but he has always realised that all I needed was time. After that, it's always so much more loving and special.

    I wouldn't put up with any pig that acted like it was expected, and my boyfriend would agree with me there.
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    lol, they're thinking with their other head.

    But I think it's all just a bit more complex than just 1 or 2 different types of men. People do different things at different times for different reasons.
    Let's also not assume the issue of manipulation to get sexual gratification is reserved only for men.
    I have personally experienced it with the opposite sex as well. Sex is more important to some people than it is for others. For instance, some women feel that if their husband/boyfriend doesn't feel like having sex with her, then they must not find her attractive anymore- or that they may not love her anymore. I'm sure this may be a reason with some men too.

    More information is needed before we can determine whether Zoe's boyfriend is a bad person. She's with him now, so she must not think he's too bad.
    Plus everyone acts like a douche now and again- regardless of upbringing. It's unfortunate that many people outside the relationship only see the bad.
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    My boyfriend is absolutely lovely, so I have no idea why he's been acting the way he has. It's only been the last weekend that he's been like this. I'm freaked out and confused, because I have no idea what's brought this on. My closest guess is that it's because his ex girlfriend, whom he had quite a long relationship with is moving back into town. She broke up with him in a very awful way, and their relationship was full of turbulence because she had a lot of untreated psychological issues. I think the conclusion of their relationship really broke him emotionally, so her return has reawoken buried feelings. What makes this situation so complicated is that because my boyfriend is a forgiving person he has offered to help her and her new boyfriend, get settled back into town upon their arrival. He seems to sincerely want to be friends with them both, which is great, I support it, but it seems to have really messed him up psychologically (I honestly think it's too much, too soon, if that makes sense)

    Also, I'm sorry if any men (or women) have taken offence to my generalisation, I know better than to say ridiculous sexist things like that but anger clouds better judgement. I really do sincerely apologise. I seriously shouldn't post when angry.

    Thanks Lav for shedding light on the issue, I agree with everything you've said in your post; I'm glad that you're intelligent enough to not jump to the conclusion that my boyfriend is a misogynistic pig based on one silly rage post.
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    A wonderful friend of mine got her heart broken today. Seeing her in pain makes me sad. Poor thing. :(
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    Packers lost at the very last second. :mad: :(
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    Lol, I was just replying to Link's idea. I'm not judging anyone's boyfriend, but if there are men who acted with their dicks, then I'd say they were pretty piggish. All I know is my boyfriend isn't, and I'm lucky - my friend has a total sh/t for a boyfriend, even if she'll never see it.

    I agree people act differently depending on the situation, so I hope nobody thinks I'm saying men are all the same. That's sexist, especially when I have no idea what the person in question is like.

    That would mean I'm not a person who is "intelligent enough to not jump to the conclusion that her boyfriend is a misogynistic pig based on one silly rage post." as Eoz so eloquently put it. :rolleyes:

    Of course, I'm not that kind of person, and nobody has the right to make that nasty judgement of me. :) *Halo*
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    I have to admit, I giggled a little bit at the first sentence here, because with Joel and I, the stereotypical roles are totally reversed.

    That being said, I agree with Rob. And I hope you get things figured out as to why he's being like that. :/

    Oh, Rob...I would rep you if it would let me...

    I'm sorry, Em. :( I hope she's ok!
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    That really sucks. :(
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    I'm a bit discontent as it's the holidays and I'm broke; not that I have anyone to buy materials for, but still...

    An acquaintance said I was a scrooge, "but you have to have money to be a scrooge, you mean Grinch," I corrected him, very funny actually.
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