The Not Happy Thread

You'd be sad too if your species was on the brink of extinction.

 

True, I would. (that is, if I was a panda).

 

Heheheh

Was just being a little corny lol

Though sad panada was a reference to South Park

 

But at least I sparked a discussion about pandas.

 

That's not very nice!

 

I hate myself.

My husband got a new job. That's great! But now he's taking to Facebook to connect with people he might not see again. And by people, I mean person. A woman he's apparently close with. He's an IT guy, so it's necessary for him to interact with his coworkers. But this one girl, they have inside jokes, he says, and email each other at work all the time (to pass the time and make more inside jokes). They talk daily, and he knows a lot about her (and about her upcoming trip to Brazil). But every time I go to his work to each lunch with him, I see her, and they never say anything to each other. She barely even looks at him. I asked him about it once. "Isn't that your friend Jordan? That was rude to not say hi." "Well, we're not that close," he says. "But I thought you guys had all kinds of inside jokes and emailed each other all the time..."

I've yet to be introduced to her. That, to me, throws up a big red flag. Your friends with my husband, but don't want to know me? And my husband is friends with her but doesn't want me to know her? And now, out of all the people he's friending on Facebook before he leaves, it's her. And it just makes me incredibly uncomfortable.

I must admit, most of this is probably just me. I'm jealous. I'm insecure. I'm afraid. I don't like myself at all. So of course I'm worried that he's going to step out on me. We've had issues with trust in the past, so I think that's also part of it. While he didn't cheat, he did cross a line (though I'm not sure I'd call it "cheating"). And I don't know if I've ever really forgiven him for that. I've been betrayed before. And I don't want to be embarrassed again. So I think I'm partly projecting my fear onto my husband.

I don't have therapy for another two weeks.. I'll just have to hold off on freaking out until then.

 

You just got married! I do hope it's not what you think.

There are other reasons for her not interacting with you at lunch with the hubby. I go to lunch with my son sometimes and when his coworkers are there I'm not part of the work group. He'll say hi and that's the extent of our interacting. And I don't think he's embarrassed by me or anything. I just don't have work things in common with them.

 

The effects of losing a boxing match are none to fun.

 

I'm sad 'cause I have this friend who has a wounded eye after a boxing match and keeps telling me, and I keep ignoring him. I probably should say something positive to him, but well, he is a loser, cant' say anything good.

 

At least I lose with comedy.

 

I like how your signature contradicts the results of your match

 

BEST IN THE WOOOOOOOOORLD!!!!!! Kingtype is the prettiest and most handsome writer on this site, remember that! Write like a butterfly and sting like a bee.

 

theres nothing wrong with a little flirting. It sounds like that's what he's doing, to be honest.

 

RIP Ben E King.

 

I get why you're getting uncomfortable with this. It's weird if they chat a lot but then don't interact irl, to me anyway. I don't know. Maybe she just wanted to give you two space? Can you talk about this to your hubby? Just keep it polite and tell him how it makes you feel. Couples should be able to communicate with each other, and sometimes these things happen because the other has a different set of boundaries in their mind. Some couples are ok with flirting with others, some are not. Some have close friends of the opposite sex with all kinds of inside jokes and whatnot, and that can work for them. Talking about it usually helps to clear up the "rules" for both parties. It's better than letting the bad shit just fester. I hope things'll work out for you guys. At least she's leaving the country.

 

Well, the royal baby has been born and it's a girl. I can already hear royalists up and down the country crying and screaming unintelligibly with their misplaced delight.

(<-Committed British republican)

 

^ I'm sad that our news didn't make as big of a deal about it as they did when the first kid was born and the couple got married.

 

I suspect your comment is premature.

 

I'm a bit concerned that this little girl was just born hours ago and already half the world hates her.

 

I was joking around, Minstrel. I don't hate the girl. May eternal blessings and good fortune follow her always for the next 100 years of her life.

 

Eternity is only 100 years?

 

The blessings are eternal, they will move on to another when the girl is dust. They will follow her as long as there's a her to follow.

 

Feeling discouraged. I know I need to keep trying but maybe I should take a break.

 

Checked Cracked.com for some hilarious articles and was greeted instead with an article about children having cancer (and how they must deal with it) and another about racism.

Damn it, Cracked! You're supposed to be a comedy site! A comedy!! Your friggin' tagline is 'America's only humor site since the 1950s'*! Stop being so damned depressing!

* Cracked used to be Cracked Magazine, which was the successor of the Mad Magazine series that was popular during the 1950s.

 

As someone who hasn't ever been in a 'relationship' I'm not sure what I can offer on advice but, don't feel guilty about those feelings you have. I believe that a relationship is only as successful as the communication between two people, so make it clear. Women have pretty good intuition about this type of thing, if you know him well you can gauge his reaction to your thoughts to find out if he is being honest with you... But that can backfire if your not careful, and if it were me being told this, I would think she was cute for getting jealous, but that might just be my naivety speaking...