okay so after some scouring, I haven't really found a thread that can help with what I need. I'm a female writer writing a novel about races being held in fictionalized Australia, my main character is male, and my second MC is female. Her name is Ivanka, and after five years of racing, she finds herself disfigured and not as beautiful as she used to be. I want Ivanka to start coming into her own sense of self, and start loving herself, but this happens to coincide with meeting my male protagonist. How can I write this so it doesn't come off as my male character being the one to her a sense of purpose? Like the trope in movies where the depressed person doesn't start to heal until they fall in love? or the ugly girl getting a makeover and the popular boy telling her she looks pretty, and suddenly her life is better?