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    Which sounds better?

    Discussion in 'Word Mechanics' started by PurpleCandle, Jan 10, 2011.

    This is the beginning of a sentence. They refers to a group of people

    Both they and I...
    Both I and they...
    They and I both...
    I and they both...

    Which is the best option. Or is there another option. I cannot say "we". I can take out both and use another word such as equally.
     
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    A group isn't plural and by using 'they' that's what you are making it. It is, as you say A group.

    'The group and I..' works grammatically. (the group and I are planning to meet tonight)
     
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    You should probably stop going with what "sounds better" and start going with what is actually correct. What is the rest of the sentence?
     
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    The group and I ? or the group and myself.
     
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    You are right..

    but, my group isn't that kind of group. It is a group of people, but they are not a group. That makes no sense!

    I took out the both

    and went with.. "They and I are not on the same page"..Is that any better?
     
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    doesn't sound right...

    'the others and I are not...' would work much better than 'they'...
     
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    Thanks guys, I have got it.
     
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    I'd go for "They're not on the same page as me."
     
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    Yeah, that is sort of what I did. I was writing an essay about an experience I had in a grocery store where all of the people there were of different class/race than me. It was assigned to me, I did not pick the topic!

    I could only call them "the people at the store" or them/they. Using they/them was less repetitive and less annoying than "the people at the store". In addition, the topic covered cultural differences. Thus I could not say things like, "those people", "the Italians" as I would sound a bit racist.

    I ended up painting myself into a couple of corners :eek:
     

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