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    Why is it so much easier to be sad rather than happy?

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    I have noticed that with me, at least, it is so much easier for me to be down and depressed than happy. I know taht everyone tries to make me happy, but honestly I cant for that long. I was wondering if anyone agrees that sadness is easier to feel than happiness and i wanted to know if anyone could explain why that is.
     
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    I don't know D= I am generally this happy person but I have depression and little things can set it off and I get sad, depressed w/e you may call it. I guess it might be, but being happy sure as hell feels a lot better.
     
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    I can't say really. Happy just doesn't seem natural to me. Its much more natural to feel kind of comfortable, but totally uncaring about the world.
    And from there the moment anything happens to remove the comfortable you're just left with the uncaring, which is basically depression.
    Happiness has to increase the comfort level, and actually make you care about the world. So two things must change instead of one.
     
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    Well, from my point of view, happyness takes effort, whereas wallowing in sadness doesn't. In order to be happy I have to do something, e.g. going out, talking to people, getting unceremoniously drunk. Sometimes it isn't worth the effort, so I just lie in bed lamenting the fact that I'm not doing anything.

    Oh, and if that made no sense, then I blame the fact I'm currently sat in a maths. Maths tends to mess with my head...
     
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    I hate Numbers lol :)
     
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    Did you know that it actually takes more muscles in your face to frown then it does to smile!?

    So with saying that we should find it easier to put on a smile then a frown really.

    I know it sounds strange but I find being happy is easier than being sad, well I have put on a mask my whole life and shown people that I am happy when I am not so it is just easier to be happier than be sad I guess. Even if it is a lie.
     
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    ->What a strange question.

    I think that anyone who truly doesn't make an effort, who truly stops caring about the world, should be entirely content. Not sad, but not entirely joyous, either. Just content. Content = natural state of man?
     
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    I hope this doesn't come off sounding like a flame, but I think personal philosophy/attitude has a lot to do with it. You can choose to approach things with a positive attitude, or choose to approach things negatively.

    I have found that if I get into the habit of looking for the good side of things first, I'm generally happier. For example, I have made it a point to get excited about Mondays, because it is a new beginning. It makes it so much easier to get through the week than if I'm only looking forward to the end of day on Friday.
     
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    i know what you mean hun, i think everyone does at some point or another. sometimes life seems terrible and you cannot help being sad, but on the other hand i have days where no matter what, i cannot help but sit and smile to myself, for no apparent reason. all you need to do when you are having one of those bad days is remember that you have friends and family around you to talk to, including myself you know, and talking can really help when you are feeling down. also, remember that some days are bound to be bad, it is how the world works. evryone had bad, but everyone has good also, you just need to perserve through the bad and try to make the most out of what you've ogt.
    Heather
     
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    I'd have to disagree with that statement. One of the defining characteristics of humanity is its lack of contentment. How else would we have invented so many new things, explored so many new things, and even now be looking forever to the future and the mysteries which are still to revealed?
     
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    One can argue that progress comes from an unnatural state of mankind, that the couch potato is more representative of man's natural state.

    Except I'm not that cynical, myself. I belief man does naturally strive to better himself.
     
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    I'm a little confused, Cogito. Were you saying that mankind's desire for progress is born of a deeper desire to be able to do naff all and sit around all day? Basically, we want progress because we're too damn lazy for life to remain as it is? :p


    (Please note: I'm just trying to clarify, not start an argument. I'm genuinely unsure if that's what you were trying to say or not)
     
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    I described a position that the natural state of man is laziness and apathy, and that progress only results from a minority of mankind in an unnatural state of discontent. Think of it as a probability distribution where most of the population garners the benefits of a few ambitious wackos. It is a tenable argument.

    But it is not my position. I believe that mankind has a natural tendency for discontent, a desire for knowledge, and a need to improve conditions for all.
     
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    Ah, I see. I understood it wasn't your point of view, I just didn't understand what it was you were saying.
     
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    well, i look at the world from both a positive and a negative perspective. im like torana, so if anyone sees me in person, i will appear to b happy, i dont let others know that i am down unless i am comfortable with them, and there r a very small amount of ppl who can ever make me even the slightest bit happier. mon amour always gets it so that i am like euphoric and extremely happy all day, but other tahn her i am not that happy of a person
     

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