I met a girl (20-21) through uni but only just started talking to her about a month ago (we've been in classes together as long as a year ago but never really talked). Most of our conversation has been on Snapchat or text. Since the semester ended we've really been talking a lot, to the point that I'm starting to procrastinate on things I need to do. I feel like we might be moving too fast maybe or something? We've been flirting and beating around the bush if you know what I mean. I am in need of advice because I'm not sure if maybe we're moving too fast (for me) but it's just a natural thing. Importantly, most of our conversation isn't loads of compliments or anything that feels fake, like lovebombing. It feels more like coming on too strong or something but not in a manipulative way. For example, we're hanging out this weekend. We've talked about all the shows we could binge together *this summer* but we haven't even hung out once yet. Like, the cart is really getting put before the horse here. We've texted about pretty personal past experiences which takes a good degree of trust. I think where my fear may be coming from is I've never really been in a good intimate relationship. I've only dated two girls and each relationship lasted just a few months. I'm getting this reaction where I feel like my own space and time are being invaded heavily, and I think that's also my fault because I haven't learned how to set healthy boundaries. In her case, she has been with 5 people. One relationship just ended around the turn of the year but she has to finish out her lease with her ex. This kind of hit me as red flaggy you know? I have to trust her word in terms of how bad of a person her ex is, and how her ex isn't paying rent. She told me she's been abused in relationships in the past (not referring to her ex here, but *herself*, to clarify) and has ADD. She says she has no filter, and that's pretty accurate. She says she suffered an abusive relationship with a parent who she hates... I mean she is *very* forthright and open about her own personal life with me, which, I mean, is okay. I guess after my boner chilled out I started wondering how I feel about all this, and the amount I'm already sharing too. I'm not at all assuming negative things about her simply because she has a somewhat fucked up family background and current living situation, but still, it's a lot to take in and maybe I'm feeling overwhelmed? I mean, she's still living with her ex, and dealing with a soon-to-be small claims court issue. Anyway, she's coming over this weekend to my place to hang out. I feel like things are going to move toward the sexy-time direction at some point. My roommates will be home so I plan on introducing her and hanging out with them, maybe watching something or playing Mario Kart, Mario Party together. I don't plan on letting her stay the night, and I hope I don't think with my dick. Am I being insecure or avoidant? When she comes over I also want to talk with her one on one about all this and how she feels about the speed of our relationship. For example, we haven't talked about it in great detail (partly I think because her ADD makes convos jump around a lot), but she already offered to help me make an Indeed when I mentioned I need a job for the summer, and she already said she wants to do a road trip somewhere in our state this summer with me. We haven't, like, made serious plans about these things, but at the same time it feels like a lot of sudden involvement. At the same time, we've also talked a lot about silly shit like spirit animals, zodiac symbols, and favorite colors, or innocuous stuff like our favorite music or school related things, or her pet. So idk if I'm overthinking it. I'm an anxious hypochondriac, so I'm *not* trying to find problems that don't exist... that's kind of why I am asking advice from an outside perspective. But I do feel like we're moving too fast at least; that's a gut feeling I can trust. I'm trying to figure out how to set boundaries and have that conversation. I also don't know how I feel about her already calling me "babe" over (albeit only one) text, although I've also said some things too that maybe were hasty (flirty things, NOT "I love you" or something crazy, but still), so the way this has been developing is also my fault. I'm afraid of being hurt by someone who is not good, but I'm also afraid of pushing away someone because of my own fears (of being hurt, of losing my own time and space) when that person actually could have been alright, except just moving things too fast with me; I like her, but I think I need to get to know her more first and slow down. I just imagine a dystopian future where I have zero alone time, zero free time, and get cold feet.