Some of you may have heard this kind of advice before. I haven't. It really knocked me over,how insightful and useful this advice is. It comes from a German Benedictine Monk/Writer/Psychologist/Counsellor named Anselm Gruen in his book "Building Self-esteem"
"Instead of letting anger eat us up inside, instead of exploding with rage, we should use our anger to distance ourselves from people who steal our time and attention. In fact, we have to eject them altogether. Of course some people might say this isn't Christian behaviour, and that forgiveness - not angry expulsion- is the Christian thing to do. But anger is a PROCESS. Forgiveness is its LAST and not its first stage. As long as the person who has injured me, is still in my heart, forgiveness would be no more than MASOCHISM. If I forgave him or her, I would harm myself. Only when I have DISTANCED myself from him or her can I really forgive that person, knowing that he or she is only another psychically wounded child. "
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