Body Love? That's a shock.

By Eoz Eanj · Mar 28, 2010 · 553 · 7
  1. Somedays, I nearly feel as if I have warmed up to the fact my body is like that of a porn star's.

    Really, there's nothing I can do about it. Having struggled with accepting my physique as the way it is, I'm getting tired of putting my body down. The fact of the matter is, I'm all woman, and I'm staying like that.

    Even if I somehow burnt off all the extra fat on my body, I would still have wide hips, thick thighs and enormous breasts.

    Sure, I can lose fat, but can I really lose bone? I think the realization that it's impossible has only just struck me.

    So yeah, I'm off now, to love my meaty body and to continue not feeling like a complete and utter prostitute when I wear an article of clothing that embraces it.

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  1. Wreybies
    Why should body love be a shock?

    From the point where we are uncomfortable in our own skin, there are only two directions in which one can travel. Travel far enough in either direction and you will gain peace.

    <-- Travel in the direction that points away from the body as definition of self. It is not us, it is merely the vessel of us.

    --> Travel in the direction that we are what we are. Care only that you are healthy and there comes a point when the wrapper of discontent falls away. Others notice when this wrapper falls to the ground like a shed skin. They notice and are able to see us. Really see us.
    Wreybies, Mar 29, 2010
  2. Eoz Eanj
    I say body love is a shock because it's so uncommon in young women (and men, I might add). As I 'grow into my looks' as they say, I'm beginning to care only that I am healthy, and accepting that there's nothing I can do to change the structure of my DNA. Also, I agree about others seeing you for what you've embraced, that definitely does happen. Whether they like what they see or not is another matter - luckily an irrelevant one in my case, haha.
    Eoz Eanj, Mar 29, 2010
  3. HorusEye
    Luckily, taste is a wholly subjective matter. Personally, I've chosen to simply ignore people with disagreable tastes. If you're single, then look for a partner who digs your looks as they are -- not everyone is into exoskeletal runway zombies.
    HorusEye, Mar 29, 2010
  4. madhoca
    It's great to be happy and accept the body we have, if it is a healthy weight (I mean by this not too over OR underweight for lifestyle).

    I'm not suggesting at all that you are not being genuine with what you say Eoz. It's great that you feel comfortable with yourself!

    So, please don't get me wrong when I say that I can't stand some women who are large and go on about 'big is beautiful', when they are in actual fact very uncomfortable about themselves.

    An acquaintance of mine presently has a column in the Daily Mail newspaper in which she sings the praises of accepting her larger body. It really annoys me that every word is a lie. She does not accept her weight and absolutely HATES being marginally obese (dieting totally rules her life but she never loses any weight). I think it's so cynical of her to encourage girls to give up trying to slim down a bit if they are very big.
    madhoca, Mar 29, 2010
  5. Ashleigh
    I agree with you Madhoca, 100%. Alot of 'big girls' are actually painfully unhappy, but they think they're fooling people with the 'big is beautiful' talk.

    (Eoz, this isn't addressing you btw, lol. I'm talking about obesity in women)

    Of course, i'm not saying big girls can't be beautiful - they can. But I know what being overweight can do to completely turn a girl's personality uspide-down for the worst, and most of what they say is just a front because they've given up.

    Usually those kinds of women focus on breasts as being their best feature; and we all know that it's because breasts are allegedly a universally well-accepted thing for men and women. Apparently, everyone wants large breasts.

    However, they're only large because the women are large. Also, it's a distraction - accentuate one feature to hide the rest.

    It's pretty much my reason for dieting. For a while, I tried to convince people I was happy - but I was only trying to convince myself, and in the end, my health damn-well matters. Why should I become a desperate-eater just to prove big is beautiful? That's not what I was born to be; I'm worth more, and I think big women are worth more too. They need to realise how dangerous being big can actually be for their health.

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    Sorry to detract from your post, Eoz, lol. You don't come under the 'big girl' category, so please don't be offended by what I said. You're a curvy girl for sure, though, so it's nice to see someone who doesn't endeavour to be 2D.

    Myself, i'm getting increasingly pleased with my appearence, all for being more healthy. I think health is everything - a happy body is a happy mind, after all. It's true, i've learnt that from experience.
    Ashleigh, Mar 30, 2010
  6. Eoz Eanj
    Nah I get you, and agree madhoca. I don't like, or concur with this current culture that is trying to promote 'big is beautiful'. In my opinion it's just creating excuses for women to neglect their health and replace concern with apathy. What should be the current culture is, 'healthy is beautiful'.

    I'm not saying I've utterly reformed myself, and now my self esteme is picture perfect, but I'm beginning to understand that inspite of how well I eat (and I do eat quite well), and how much I exercise (I try to exercise as much as I can), I'm going to remain curvy, it's (and I know this seems cliche), my genetics.

    I was once obsessed with having a '2D' flat stomach, and for my arms to be very slender, for my breasts to be significantly smaller (I was very ashamed of having large breasts, I'd do anything in my power to conceal them) - for about a month I used to do obscene amounts of exercise everyday trying to achieve this, I'd also follow a very strict diet which prohibited all foods high in sugar and carbs.... and yes, although I did tone up, I did not lose much weight at all.. and, unhappy and exhausted, I took a good look at myself one night and thought, 'You know what, I don't think you're going to have a body like Megan Fox anytime soon. Maybe you should just work with what you have', and folks, that's what I'm doing, I'm working with what I have, and through good-eating and exercise, trying to make the most of it.
    Eoz Eanj, Mar 30, 2010
  7. explosions
    Humanity has always been told what beauty is supposed to be. Men with chiseled abs, and women with no cellulite seem to be the only ones that deserve recognition in today's society. For years, I picked my body apart, limb by limb- comparing them to all the beautiful women who were so wanted by millions. But some where along the line, I lost respect for all the pin-up women, and began to appreciate the beauty that surrounded me. Though it may be difficult to realize, every second of this life counts. All the times you've wished you were shaped different, looked different..the average person wastes 20 years of their life wishing for something else. Embrace beauty, my friend. Life will love you no matter what size jeans you wear.
    explosions, Apr 2, 2010
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