Friendship

By ISalem · Nov 23, 2020 · 1.1K · 2
  1. We spend our whole life looking for a best friend. However, what is the best definition for a best friend? Isn’t the closest friend and the one who we have the longest relationship with? Why don't we treat ourselves as our best friend? Isn't ourselves the closest one and longest one to have a relationship with? Don’t we deserve to treat ourselves as best friend?!
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  1. Madman
    Some of us get lucky and meet our best friends when we are young, and have the fortune of them sticking around until a later age.

    I don't know, we should treat ourselves well, but like a best friend? One definition of a friend is: a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard.
    Best friend then means the best such person. Can that really be ourselves? Or is that affection reserved for someone else?

    If you lack friends, the healthy alternative would be to find some, while still being nice to yourself and treating yourself well. I would say that it is fine and good to love yourself, as much as you love others or the world. And if you have no one else, then yes, loving yourself or treating yourself like you were the best friend would be alright.
    Madman, Nov 24, 2020
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  2. ISalem
    Thanks for your comment.

    "Or is that affection reserved for someone else?"

    What if we never meets who deserves our affection, our affection remains reservied for noone.
    And what if we meet the wrong person who, at first, we think he is the right friend and we have the best affection we could have to him and then we realized he is the wrong friend, due to incompatibility, we feel sorry for the affection we had to him. (It's easy for us to meet someone and then have affection to him, but it's hard to meet the person who is compatible with us). The hardest question is do we build our friendship based on affection or based on compatibility? I think friendship is about compatibility. Let’s assume that,the second best person meets the best person in the world and he considers him as his 'best friend'. On the other hand, the second worst person meets the worst person and consider him as his 'best friend'. Was that due to affection or compatibility. Therefore, it seems the definition of a best friend is the most compatible person with us. The other part of the question is what does make a friendship last longer(regardless of it was built based on affection or compatibly)?
    However,
    if we haven't meet the person who is compatible with us at some point of our life, then we just need to keep looking. However, it is smarter and more health to treat ourselves as a best friend, in the meantime.
    ISalem, Nov 26, 2020
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