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By TheEndOfMrsY · Feb 16, 2021 · ·
  1. They say the three most stressful things in life are:
    - getting married
    - getting divorced
    - moving home

    If I ever were to get married, I'm lucky in a sense because I'm an event planner by trade so I've all ready done a few of these. I imagine my own would be more stressful but I figure I can illiminate a lot of it just by routine.

    If I were to get married I certainly wouldn't want to think about getting divorced. I'll just hope that never happens.

    Which leaves me with moving home.
    September 2020: my boyfriend and I find the perfect house and the rollercoaster begins.

    My boss said "you know it's one of the most stressful things you can do"
    "Pah" I scoffed, "so far so good"

    Oh how naive I was. You see, I got all that paper work in pretty sharpish, I like being organised and know where I'm at but that was where the stress started. I didn't realise just how long I would be waiting for everyone else to be ready.

    Months of endless waiting and there was nothing I could do about it.
    It started taking over my every waking thought, I started wondering what worst possible senario could be happening.
    "There is literally nothing to worry about" my boyfriend would say.
    "We don't know that!" I'd snap back.

    Then I realised something. It wasn't the house purchase in itself (well it was but it was a specific part) I'm just not good with stress I can do nothing about.
    I never get stressed about work deadlines or organising things. Anything I have control of, I can smash it out of the park.

    I wish I knew before this process just how awful the feeling of waiting for such a lifechanging thing would be.
    Note to self: chain free properties only from now on.

    Today I have my contract and my boyfriend and I move in on the 12th.
    A learning curve for me it has been and now I get to do all the bits I can be excited about: sorting bill transfers, packing, buying furniture... the control freak in me is happy once again.

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  1. EFMingo
    Buying a home is a ridiculous uphill battle. It took me a full year of reviewing documents and touring homes, making offers, negotiating, rejections and close calls. It isn't fun in any way and it's unbelievably stressful. Not to mention here in CA, you have to pay around a half a million dollars minimum to get a comfortable three bedroom that isn't falling apart. Massive, terrifying purchase. But you made it through. Good work!

    I'm now onto deciding whether to move into bigger, or to buy a rental. Leaning towards rental properties when the small home market crashes in a year or so. The property buying game never ends.
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