Let the tears fall... it's OK... I promise.
If you're having problems about something, anything; talk to someone, you're not alone. It might sound untrue, BUT HEAR ME OUT.
Most people have suffered through a situation where they've felt trapped and unable to cry or show their true feelings. Because of the people I've spent most of my time with, I've had to hide what I'm thinking or feeling quite a lot. This is because I've been called melodramatic, or the people I'm opening up to simply won't try to understand what I'm going through. And because of this, for a long time I just accepted that it's something I have to cope with.
But a new person came into my life recently - and I'm only sharing this post because I think it's so important to realise. Anyway, I learned to trust this person and because of this I shared more than I normally would, and therefore gotten tearful quite a lot. But everytime I get upset over something personal, even though the problem doesn't really matter to anyone but me, this person chases after me when I run away, and holds me until the emotional pain has passed. I've never really had this before, but suddenly I have this support in my life constantly, and I realise what a fool I've been.
Not sharing how you feel, or not talking to the person you love when you're having a problem (regardless of whether the problem is big or small), is so stupid. And I mean no offense to anyone who hasn't come to this conclusion yet. I don't mean to sound harsh, because believe me I was this cagey too. But seriously; people need to talk to each other more, if you don't, if you just sit and let it fester without being honest, you're suffering and you don't even need to.
I think people forget that everyone has problems, everyone has things that make them angry or cry. You don't have to bottle up and act strong, because everyone is going through difficult times, everyone is in the same boat. If someone helps you, help them back.
It’s like pent up aggression - concealing feelings is unhealthy because it's going to damage you emotionally, and make life so much harder. We're told not to keep rage inside because it’s better for you mentally. It’s the same with crying, you shouldn’t have to force the tears away. Even if you think there isn't, you are infact crying for a reason. You cry because your body can’t contain the level of emotion you’re experiencing. So take care of yourself and sob. If you share your true feelings or thoughts with someone and they don't support you, then you're talking to the wrong person. Don't get me wrong, that person might love you, but you need to find a person who will relentlessly protect you until you're sadness has passed. Believe it or not people like that do exist.
If you really don't have anyone like this in your life, and don't mind confiding in a stranger, feel free to message me if you want to talk or vent. It's so important and good to let it out, so if you feel like you want to, talk to me.
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