Moving on (stupid females)...

By Marshmallow · Nov 7, 2009 · 653 · 6
  1. This won't take long....

    lie.

    Anyway, in my ever frustrating quest to find a female worth talking to, I have hit another road block: my best friend.

    See, I've had this best friend for a while.

    A long while.

    And she's awesome, don't get me wrong.

    But she's stubborn.

    I started getting really close to her, and naturally (be it because of, I don't know...my penis) wanted to do some not so Moses'-law-abiding things in and around her orifices. :p

    She was actually fine with that. However, when I wanted to go further still, she said no. What I mean by further is a more stable, long term relationship. Her reasoning? She didn't want us dating to come between our friendship.

    What the hell?

    Ah well, better luck next time, right?

    Wrong.

    I asked her out again one night, and some circumstances made it impossible for her to answer (for the love of God don't ask), so she had to go.

    I give her some space, because she had gone through something mourning-worthy, if that made sense. And a few days later we talk again. She's really nervous and kind of distracted, so I'm just like 'What? What's going on?'

    No reply, just the standard 'Nothing, just tired.'

    So I go about my business.

    Until I see her and her new boyfriend...

    Oh my God, I have never been so pissed in my life.

    But that's what the deal is, huh? You think you find something great and then you realize that that person is made of the same thing everyone else is: the ability to hurt you.

    I don't know. It may seem like I'm ragging on females a little bit here, but why in the mess can't you guys be honest? Seriously, I have never not been honest in a relationship, and I've never been in a relationship with someone who's returned the favor.

    It's so frustrating....

    Advice?

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  1. Rawne
    "...you realize that that person is made of the same thing everyone else is: the ability to hurt you."

    Agreed. I've got the same kinda thing going on. Hope you start to recover soon, mate.
    Rawne, Nov 9, 2009
  2. freethinker09
    Honestly, I think females are cryptic. Meaning they will give you hints and gesture rather than outright speaking about what's wrong. I.e her being nervous and distracted, possibly diverting her attention from you in the conversation etc etc...she didn't know how to tell you she has a boyfriend suddenly, which actually makes me angry.

    After all she could have the courtesy to tell you, somehow even if she knows in every fiber of her being that you will not like to hear it.

    My thing is, you're right she could have been honest. If she had no feelings for you in the first place then she should not have involved herself with you intimately as you said occurred. She just complicated things if you ask me.

    Speaking as a female, I know that if I don't like you in that way and I just want to be friends, that's it. I will say something before it gets too far...she should have.

    Anyway, I don't know if any of that helps, but I do think that you shouldn't beat yourself up about it. As you titled this blog "Moving On"...that's just what you should do. If you cannot continue being her friend well then I have to admit she should been cautious...

    OH, and about females being honest. We often wonder the same thing about males...although, I think our view of all guys has been sorely tainted...we have come to believe that they are only after one thing. So maybe she thought it was one time deal and you'd get over it? That's one possibility.

    Of course, I'm not even an expert in these matters. Truth be told: I've never been in a relationship. Does that diminish all I've just said now?
    freethinker09, Nov 10, 2009
  3. Jack
    Wow, this sounds exactly like my relationship.
    Jack, Nov 10, 2009
  4. Marshmallow
    Yeah, the funny thing is is that she said she did. I mean, what with the whole intimate conversations until three in the morning before seeing each other three hours later at school but we share our lives with each other regardless thing going on, I don't really know what the hell to say...

    But in reality, folks, I don't think it's going to work out. Every time I see her I picture deception - not a good sign.

    So I don't know, hopefully I find some other chick to take my mind off of her soon.
    Marshmallow, Nov 11, 2009
  5. karalissa
    Nice, I mean your writing, the story, the truth of all the lies she fed you.
    not nice for you though.
    I'm sorry, I've lied to someone before, and I've been lied to...lets see, in almost every single relationship. lol
    I'm just so good at finding the liars, and bull****ers and fakers and...you get the idea.
    But a great man once told me, "You date all the wrong people so you know what you don't want."
    That was my dad. :)

    you'll find her. the right one. at the right time.
    karalissa, Nov 18, 2009
  6. karalissa
    REBOUND!! nice, I'm thinking I'm gunna try that too. Who knows, maybe I'll trick some guy into liking me and then spend a night with the Dark Lady and end up more in love with cocaine than the person I made to believe I loved.
    HAHAHa, I'm totally kidding of course, I'll just wander waiting to be found.


    well and hope for the best :)
    karalissa, Nov 19, 2009
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