Pressure

By Rumpole40k · Jul 3, 2008 · ·
  1. I'm laughing as I write this because I never thought I would be a blogger. Those of you that know me are probably sharing the laugh since you know I have avoided posting any of my own writing. But here I am - needing to get some things out.

    Let me start by saying I have been blessed with a loving wife and beautiful son. These are gifts from God and I truly am grateful for them. I'm also grateful for all of my e-friends (You are a great bunch).

    I think the greatest issue I have is pressure. The decisions for my family are on my shoulders. I know some may say, discuss it with your wife. I do. She's wonderful and wise, but the final decision still comes back to me. We have a very traditional marriage. I bring home a pay check, she is the one that works (Hey taking care of my son is a hell of a lot more work than I do in a day). But the pressure remains.

    There is a for sale sign on the front lawn of the place we rent. The land lord is considering an offer. I have to find a new place for us to live. I look at my son. I look at my wife. They trust me.

    Pressure. If I fail, I've failed them. Pressure. If .... If .... If ..... If .... pressure. My shoulders are getting tired. I believe God has a plan. I know he won't let me down.... but I would be lying if I told you I didn't feel the weight on my shoulders.

Comments

  1. zorell
    Just something I thought to throw out-can you make an offer for your place?

    Also, it'll be okay, your calm nature right now already suggest that you know there's light inthis situation, and I think you'll be seeing it soon. SmilingHelps.
  2. LibbyAnn
    Those situations are so tough. And it's so hard to trust that God to take care of you!

    I will be praying for you. Keep us updated on your situation!
  3. Bick
    ./hugsquish Poor lovelyface :( I'll go eat your land lord after I pour some barbecue sauce on him!

    ./sigh! If only :(

    I sowwy. I hope everything goes amazingly well for you. You definitely deserve that.

    ./loveandhugs

    -Bick
  4. Rebekkamaria
    Oh, Sharky. :) *hugs*

    You will find a home for you three. Look for one with your dear wife, and think about it, you have your vacation right now. You have time to do such things. And we're here to help you deal with the pressure. :-D

    You are so loved.
  5. Charisma
    Mwahahaha! So Rumo finally ish helpless against the forces of evil!!!

    Hrm, but yes, you'll done fine.:( ;) As long as you keep your faith and keep struggling, you'll do fine. It's OKAY to feel a little pressure here and there, but that's alright as long as it doesn't cause depression. So chill. :)
  6. Rumpole40k
    You all are wonderful. I wish you could see the smile you all brought to my face. Thank you.
  7. Wreybies
    It’s strange, isn’t it? We wait and wait for the day when something in our heads switches over and there is a dividing line between how we felt as children and how we feel as adults. No such clear delineation line ever arrives, does it? Not for me anyway….

    We’re with ya’ Wolfie! You blogging fool! :D
  8. Rumpole40k
    Thanks Wrey .... it means a lot.
  9. Gone Wishing
    eeeee... You know how these things are, sometimes it all comes together at the last minute in some amazing way and you realise you're doing exactly what you were meant to be doing all along... and the world on your shoulders gets pretty small when others are connected to it via the web, in case you hadn't noticed. ;)
  10. lessa
    Rumpole my marriage is the typical husband works and wife stays home.
    Poor Don had the pressure of finding us a place to live 13 times in the first 2 years we were married.
    Miners move lots so we never bought a house.
    When we finally moved here the company supplied us with the apt at a great price. So we lived in a two bedroom apt. for 15 years until we decided to buy the house we are in now. Couldn't turn it down since it is a 3 bedroom house with a large yard for $20,000. Paid it off the 2nd year we were here.
    But the pressure was always on Don. Yes we discussed everything and I usually added a voice of sanity.
    We always ended up in a nice place and I thank the powers that be that Don was there to solve the problems.
    You will find a place and your wife and son will love you as much as they do now.
    Look on it as an adventure.
    A new start in a new home.
    Pressure is good in small doses but poor fathers get a lot more than they deserve. But you also have your wife to lean on when it gets really bad.
    luv and hugs.
  11. Rumpole40k
    Mack - As always yo're there for me. Thank you more than I could ever say.

    Lessa - I needed to hear that. Thank you so much.
  12. ChimmyBear
    Oh My Friend...ever the giver of great devotion. I know it is hard and I know you are weary...but, you are a strong man, a good husband and father...There's no doubt you will make your family proud.

    You have weathered a lot Wolfie, I am sure you will find the strength you need to weather this storm too. Hard rain doesn't last long and soon enough the sky is going to break sunny and blue while it shines down on your family...in your new home.

    Much love my friend....*hugs*
  13. Torana
    Sharky, I know what it is like to be sat there seeing that evil sign glaring back at you as you walk out the door in the morning to go about your day.

    It brings a lot of fear and worry into your heart. I have been down that road too many times now. It is so hard. Especially when little ones are involved. It happened to me when I only had a few months to go with little Ami. It was hard to get another home so quickly, but just when I was ready to give up looking, and a complete wreck, another rental home came up for us. It lasted 6 months and we were on the move again, then again 6 months later, and 6 months after that. Not easy...but we managed.

    I know at the moment that things are hard for you, stressful, and you worry about failing your loving family who look to you for support. But, you will find a home for your family to reside within when the time is right. I know the wait is the hardest part, Sharky, but be patient my friend. Don't give up hope.

    It is a huge weight to carry on your own, but you have a lot of friends to help you and you also have your wonderful wife. You've a lot of support. Don't be afraid to ask for a friendly ear when it is needed. :)

    Torana
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