Yesterday a friend of mine posted uncounted pictures and videos of his wedding.
He married a woman.
Now, obviously, clearly, what he does is his business and none of mine, but this came out of the blue. He and I met working for a big interpreting mega-corp. Yes, interpreting mega-corps are a thing. Anyway, we were coworkers. We got along like a house on fire because, a) we were both gay, and b) neither of us could be paid to kowtow to the strangely monastic mannerisms many civilian interpreters invoke. There's a lot of holier-than-thou-ing in the field and he and I thought it was just sorta' funny. I think it also came from the fact that he and I also shared a history of education in linguistics, above and beyond simply being bilingual and trained as interpreters, so many of our conversations delved into esoteric realms of language use where our coworkers found themselves out of their depths.
Anywho... He kinda' dropped of my radar for a while and suddenly last week starts posting pictures of himself in El Salvador with this lady I've never seen or heard of and now they are married.
Did I mention that he's gay?
Also important to note that in the Latino community, marrying someone to help them get citizenship in the U.S. is a pretty common occurrence. But he's not mentioned a thing to me, so I don't know if that's what's going on or if he genuinely thought "maybe I'll try batting for the other team for a while" or what. I don't know how to approach it. I don't trust myself to just say congrats and leave it at that. I know myself. I'll cave in to my own curiosity and find a way to segue to the question. Though the whole "married for citizenship" thing is common enough, I've never known someone who engaged in it. I don't know the protocol. And we're both legal interpreters who typically inhabit juridical realms and find ourselves constantly in the company of ADA's and magistrates, so the legality of the matter, and mentioning it under the pall of that legality, weighs heavy on me.
I feel a little lost.
It's not a big thing, but I guess big enough to mention here.
And if he did marry her to actually stay with her, as a gay person I feel a little... betrayed? I probably don't have a right to that feeling, but it's there all the same. I'm not a Vulcan.
I don't know. Whatever. Just weird.
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