Why are you a dick?

By Wreybies · Sep 9, 2014 · ·
  1. Now, before proceeding further, it's important to note that we are all dicks at one time or another. And it's also important to note that I think there's a difference between being a bitch (all genders can be bitches) and being a dick (all genders can be dicks).

    So, why? Why be a dick? Many of us can look back at recent dickery in which we engaged and probably excuse away the act by showing that it was an escalation. It wasn't dickery here, but by about here we're probably entering into the dick zone, and by this point here it was full on penis fencing, no doubt, but I was already in it, balls deep, so... whatcha'gonna'do?

    But that's not always the case. Sometimes we dive right in, penis first. There's no build-up, there's no escalation, no foreplay; it's hardcore dickery from word go.

    What's the economic model that explains this? Do Level 1 Dicks (dives in dick first) really see an outcome scenario that is better or benefits them more than a non-dick, or someone who just found themselves in the heat of the moment suddenly being a dick (we'll call that Level 2 Dick)?

    Or does the economic model (to which I nearly always repair in any discussion about anything) not apply? Has intolerance to dickery forced Level 1 Dicks to the surface, kinda' the way religious extremism makes otherwise quiet atheists into vocal atheists for getting smooshed into a corner?

    Are people able to be frank and honest about their dickery? Is it a topic that suffers too much from emic-only data loss?

    What do you think?
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Comments

  1. KaTrian
    While I'm literally dickless, I can usually explain my bouts of figurative dickery, so I wonder if others have similar reasons for it?

    It's like you mistake dickery for being a rebel, or honest. Oh-I-ain't-one-of-those-namby-pamby-PC-pussies. I say things as they are. And why should I give a crap about social conventions? I won't be noticed if I'm nice. I won't get a girl (or a guy) if I'm nice. Nice people finish last.

    Being a dick is masculine.One might think it means you don't take shit from anyone.

    I'm a dick when I'm on a foul mood. That's when I shove past people instead of patiently waiting for the line to pour out of the packed commuter train. That's when I don't lend eggs to the neighbor when she's been too scatterbrained to buy them from the grocery store.

    I'm a dick when I'm sparring with a guy twice my size. Being a nice girl means I'm gonna get my ass kicked. Fuck fair play, as long as I'm not directly breaking rules.

    As for dicks surfacing due to an anti-dickery atmosphere. Well, maybe they feel like their habitat is being threatened. You gotta guard your territory, even expand it. Make sure your species won't go extinct. It's like a pre-emptive measure to keep you from getting trampled over or shoved aside.

    Suppose that's what I think... If I understood the point of your post. :D
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  2. 123456789
    Because it's a-dick-ting.
  3. PensiveQuill
    I suppose I'm a dick most of the time then. I just don't get social conventions and why I should lie to someone's face for the sake of giving them warm fuzzies. I just spent 2 days within someone who loves social convention, and it was all forms of awkward. I wasn't rude to this person, I just can't be arsed asking about her daughter or why she paints her nails that colour or what she watches on TV. This happens between most people and I really, I don't own a TV so I can't relate to someone who's conversation revolves around Big Brother. Likewise I no longer care if I have a sexual partner or not so I can't give a toss about anyone elses relationship drama's.

    Mostly I hide my dickery by simply being too busy to engage with others much. Which I suppose makes me look like a dick because I'm being aloof. But seriously I'm not trying to offend anyone, I'm trying to save them hours of tedious and awkward impossible bonding with me for the sake of being nice. My attitude is kind of like...

    You know what. I was born with a difficult vibe, I know it, you know it and so does everyone else in this room. The chances of you and I hitting it off are zero because I felt your vibe the instant I met you and call me arrogant but I just know about these things. I'd like to save myself the embarrassment of outright rejection by you and also your time in trying to find out who I am. You don't like who I am and I'd rather not be patronised by your niceties. So here's what I'm doing to do. I'm going to keep out of your way, let you have face time with all the people you do like and enjoy, working with you professionally. At the end of the day we will both go home relieved that neither of us felt compelled to conform to social convention and ask each other questions we have no interest in knowing the answers to.

    I know that occassionally I will meet that 1% of the population who will find me amusing on some level. Then I will come out of my shell have a great time and go home. It's the way things are for me. Try not to be offended by my apparent lack of interest in you. As special as you are, my interest in you will only make you uncomfortable. Trust me on this.
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  4. jazzabel
    Sometimes it seems very few people are capable of admitting to their own dickery, other times it seems most are. I am always happy to consider if someone tells me I'm being a dick, and I freely admit I was one, as much as I can, I suppose. It's mainly because I have no moral conflict about it. I try my hardest not to be a dick, and if I end up behaving as such, either I'll apologise or I won't if I think dickery was justified.

    My main sin is being Dick Type 2 (I'm rarely Type 1 although that has happened too) and this is usually connected to having a shit day. Whether I'm not feeling very well, or have pms, or I've just been dicked around and had enough, I'm not below taking it out on someone I feel deserves it. Otherwise, I'm rarely dicky to complete strangers, I tend to be reasonably considerate in public (less so on the internet, lol) and I hate crowds, so I'd never shove people out of the way to get on the packed bus or some such.
  5. Fitzroy Zeph
    I have a certain propensity for Type 1 Childhood Dickitis and once I flare it can be a while before I settle down. Type 2 is usually a lifestyle disease and I have under control.
  6. Oscar Leigh
    I'm mostly a level 2 dick. It comes out in a bad mood. Bad shit comes out in bad mood; most people are nicer when they're happy I think. Here's a question though: what exactly do you define dick behaviour as? Is there a difference to arsehole? feel like that's a stronger word. What do you think?
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