The Not Happy Thread

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  1. KaTrian

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    There is a bottle of 18-year-old Higland Park on the shelf, so I could try that too...
    I mean, it'll disinfect my throat, at least.
     
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    Sterilize yourself from the inside out.

    ETA: Well, not sterilize yourself sterilize yourself, but I guess if the whiskey is good enough there's that possibility, too.
     
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    Ew,
     
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    So... basically I have this longing fear of being alone — specifically **living** alone. I always keep imagining myself a shut-in sad little man with no friends, then I die and its years later when they find my skeletal remains slumped in a chair.

    I have friends, but they’re online. I’m not a part of any social club/gathering in my town. I’ve also heard that there are people who live alone and they couldn’t be more happier.

    I’m curious, what are the perks of living alone? I don’t mean to disparage your life choice or make you feel bad. I’m honestly curious as to the perks so maybe I can diminish this fear a bit? Thanks. :love:
     
  5. Lemie

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    I am in a desperate need of a hug.
    I don't even know why. I just wish I had some human near by, or that I didn't have go through everything all on my own.
     
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    Flies to sweeden hugs lemie flies back .... you'll have to settle for a cyber ((((hug)))) instead
     
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    Doing what you want when you want however you want
    watching what you want to watch (porn included), listening to what you want to listen to
    no one nagging if you leave your pants on the floor or don't bathe for a week
    no one nagging period

    Peace and quiet to write when you want
    etc
     
  8. Lemie

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    Usually those. Except the bathing one. I live in my bathtub, even though it's the smallest fucking bathtub I've ever seen. But I love warm water. It's one of the few warm things around now a days.

    Pants belongs on the floor. Don't let anyone tell you different!

    That aside I love to not have to cook and clean for someone else who should be as capable of doing that as me. I remember being really sick once. Slept through an entire day with high fever. My ex wakes me up in the afternoon to ask when I was going to make dinner. I would've probably killed him if I wasn't as sick.

    Downside of living alone - well, I guess my last post is enough.
     
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    It can be very lonely on your own. :/
     
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    You're never truly alone when you've got DID.
     
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    I’m sorry about that,
     
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    So are myself and I.
     
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    Dude, no need to think you're disparaging my life choice, and I don't feel bad at all. I love living alone. Next relationship, I'm keeping separate places around the corner from each other like Sheila Graham and F. Scott Fitzgerald, I swear to God...

    Perks:

    ***Ice cream for dinner if you want.
    ***Staying up all night writing / working on something without being asked "Aren't you almost finished" every 13 minutes.
    ***The thermostat is set however you like it.
    ***You can adopt a kitty, iguana, tarantula, or snake, and there's no one to complain except the adoptee..
    ***You control ALL the remotes!!! [Rubs hands together in evil glee]
    ***No one asks where you're going or what time you'll be back.
    ***Sudden changes of dinner plans because you're too tired to cook are no problem.
    ***No one steals the covers.
    ***You're only awakened by only your own alarm clock, not someone else's endless snooze alarms.
    ***You can arrange the furniture however you want and keep things wherever you like.
    ***You can drool over your celebrity crush shamelessly.
    ***No one to complain about your choice of music.

    The things that really suck (everything else is easily fixable):
    1.The other day I didn't feel well and really wanted a hug, badly. That sucked. (But the ex wasn't the "offer a hug" type anyway.)
    2. Being sick and having to get yourself to the doctor and pick up your own meds and dinner really sucks. But that's what Uber and Postmates are for.

    I also had a hell of a time opening a jar one day, but I finally banged it on the wall and got it done.
     
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    Let's not forget:
    Nobody on your back about picking up your socks.
    The only snoring is your own.
    No arguments about keeping the toilet lid up or down.
    No hot water war for a morning shower.
    No debate about decaf or caffinated coffee.
    No one voluteering you to help their friends.
    Something doesn't get done ie: laundry or dishes, you have no one to blame but yourself.
     
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    Yes, but living alone or with an ass aren't necessarily the only choices.

    Like most adults, I'd guess, I have done both and been happy both ways, more or less.
     
  16. Homer Potvin

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    Been a long time (11 years?), but I loved living alone. Had none of this:

    Wife: are you having another beer?

    Me: (holds up beer) Do you mean this beer? (Chugs it, grabs another) Or this beer?
     
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    Do people actually debate this? If you want decaf, then we can make a separate pot of decaf, but I'm of the personal opinion that life is too short to drink bad coffee. It's also too short to be worrying about finding perfect matches for socks that only I'm going to see me wearing, but that's neither here nor there.
     
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  19. Azurisy

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    I used the gym yesterday morning for the second time since last Thursday. I used six various equipment. Since then, I am having very sore forearms and feeling so dizzy. I took protein shake an hour earlier in the hope that I would get instant relief - sadly to no avail yet.

    Is this normal for first time gym goers?
     
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    make sure you drink plenty of water before, during, and after your workout. If you're dizziness continues after a few workouts, then it probably wouldn't be a bad idea to get checked out by a doctor. The dizziness could be an indicator of prediabetes because working out uses energy and your body may be having trouble maintaining glucose levels.
     
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    That makes sense. I am slightly overweight although I drink plenty of water. However, my dizziness is going down well and I am feeling better as time passes by. Thanks for elucidating me on some facts!
     
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    I know one very long-term couple who might as well be married, but they don't share a house, because they both like to have time and space to themselves, and also each have a different outlook on what kind of house they like to live in. They get together every day, frequently stay overnight at each other's homes, are the sole beneficiary of each other's wills, share ongoing finances (to some extent) and their relationship has been steady for around 35 years. It works for them. (No children, by choice.)
     
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    There's certainly benefits to living alone compared to living with my ex; like not being interrogated where I've been whenever I leave the house and indeed being able to void myself of pants whenever I feel the inclination. But as to living alone generally? Well, lets say I'm still looking for the perks. I've never lived alone, by the way. I went straight from uni to living with my ex, so this is actually my first time just having my place. But this feels very... Default.

    I have to shop and cook and do laundry, which is fine, but it's nice when someone else helps you out with that stuff when you work ridiculous hours. I can buy whatever I like, which makes a nice change since I can actually buy food I like. But that's kinda about it. I could always drink and do drugs and sleep and live pretty much on my own terms before too.

    This feels like... I mean it's fine. I'm not terribly unhappy or anything. But this feels like just... This is what you do when you don't have someone else to live with, not because you want to. It's just the only choice you have.

    I don't miss my ex, but I miss having someone else to do something nice for.
     
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    I don't miss my ex, but I do miss Black Books which I left at the old apartment.
     
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    You want my copy? I took mine with me but I don't own a DVD player :(
     
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