The Not Happy Thread

It probably helps that you live on the same continent, I have the perk of living in the commonwealth, but the way our politicians appear to be ticking everyone off...

 

Canada has always been one of those places where 'The grass is always greener' for me. All the canadians I have spoken to have been polite and fun - small sample I know and probably heavily influenced by associated friends - but even so . . . in my head it's a paradise . . .

Rgds

 

We are way too harsh in some pretty unreasonable ways...

 

No no no, I wasn't offended by Australia's response, seemed logical to me, but I was surprised by Canada's "Sure, come on in!" It's a matter of older immigrants mooching* into healthcare and retirement benefits.

*If you're a middle-class middle-aged person dropping into a socialized system that you haven't and won't have to pay into, you're a moocher, not a stakeholder.

 

Yeah I wasn't exactly thinking of online applications for normal immigration. More thinking of asylum seekers... on boats... and then the islands... aaaand someone sewed their own eyes shut FFS.

 

Man, it's going to get akward on 7/4/2018, when I switch my Ave to a Bald Eagle and have "USA! USA! USA!" chanting in my Sigline. Plus posting the national anthem in the happy thread... so... USA!

 

Passed that exam, still extremely stressed. BUT finally giving my WIP some TLC! - t

 

Scoring pretty high isn't the same as getting in.

I'm not saying it's impossible, but I know some people who've had to work pretty hard to be accepted.

 

From what I've been reading (there's a site called teleport.org which is all about relocation with a heap of data to pick from) a lot of British knowledge workers are thinking along these lines (not necessarily Canada, just thinking about leaving).

I'm compiling a document for my bf and I with a summary of what the data I can find is.

In part, I brought it up and am doing my research into this because we're fairly free in terms of red tape. Our rent is rolling and if we decide that the UK is no longer for us it's better to make that decision before getting our own place (we've been saving towards home ownership for ages).

 

What is the same thing no matter where you go?

 

*sigh*

 

What’s up?

 

The laws of physics.

 

Life being a bitch-AGAIN! Thought we'd got past this.

 

If ya want to talk, feel free to PM me or if you want, we can make a plan to beat Life up in a dark alley and show it who’s boss...

 

I think I'm gonna have to go with the beating in a dark alley. It just sounds more fun!

 

Too many emotions to deal with. Wish I could just shut down!

 

That sucks, Ash. Sending you good vibes!

And, I was remiss in not saying it before because I lost track of the thread, but I'm glad you and Mrs. A. are safe and well after the earthquake...though sorry to hear your crockery and a toy truck are not.

 

Guys I am in need of help..
I am desperately looking for some form of self expression but creativity only seems to flourish in my darkest moments?
Is this a thing? Today in work I cobbled together a few lines through complete boredom and despair.
Is it only feelings of disconnect that allows us to get in touch with the other voice? If so this is worrying and does not bode well for work life balance..

 

This is how it is for me a lot, too. I understand it as being due to feeling the need for an outlet versus inspiration only coming with negative emotions. We don’t like pain -physical or emotional- and we tend to feel the need to relieve ourselves of it however we can when it’s strong enough. We don’t usually feel that same need with pleasure or happiness. We can want to spread those feelings to others, especially if they’re really strong or passionate, but it’s a want, not a necessity.

If you find this worrying, just know you’re not alone. Also know that it can surprisingly be a lot harder to write when you’re happy than when you’re sad. We tend to take the little joys in life for granted. I’d suggest just to be a little more aware of the good things -things that not everyone notices- and maybe you’ll find some inspiration that way. Hope that helps.

 

Our minds process information when they are given time to be still, it is in those moments that we find ourselves having the brightest inspiration.

It's also worth noting that the majority of our greatest artists in the media, including literature, have gone through hardships of some kind. Stephen Fry and Hugh Laurie, famous as a duo for Jeeves and Wooster, are both sufferers of depression. The author of the Asterix comics had an alcoholic father, the list goes on.

The good news is, however, is that if you use that time to let your characters become real in your head, then you can let those muses go in your own terms. How you harness that is unique to every writer I find, but don't fear boredom, if anything, you should give yourself a little musing time on a regular basis.

 

I think most creative people are like this. All the best painters, musicians and writers are/were tortured in some way. I'm worried about this at the moment too. Coming out of an extremely painful and traumatic relationship has given me a big wave of inspiration, but I'm scared that it will dissipate as I start to feel better about life.

 

Feel like there is an answer, but I just can't find it!

 

I'm very much the same way. I've been battling depression for the past seven years, and, in those seven years, I've become so much more in touch with my creative side. It's a bit of a double-edged sword: suffering creates inspiration, either to alleviate the pain, or to simply rise above who you are.

Once you find an idea that really grabs your attention, I'm sure you'll start to write outside of those "blue periods", as you'll be too excited to care.

 

Thanks. The thing with my sister turned out to be an admin mistake, when I applied for that job I... adjusted... my name on my primary facebook account. Even though she interacted with the new name and recognized it, it slipped her mind when she was doing some friends-list housecleaning. Fewer aftershocks yesterday, we may be off the hook but I'm not replacing the bowls etc for at least a week, maybe two. Not expensive, but not necessary in the short run either.