The Not Happy Thread

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  1. NobodySpecial

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    We went to our accountant’s office with our shoe box of receipts last night to do our taxes. We were seriously not happy to learn how many of our deductions were not allowed anymore. ALL of my wife’s work expenses were disallowed- the confrences, the CE hours, the licensing fees- everything. We balanced out okay. We owe on the city taxes, but on federal and state taxes we do have modest refunds coming.

    Little known reality: an actual CPA/certified tax accountant’s services are priced very competitively with other commercial paid tax preparers who may have dubious credentials.
     
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    Just a touch blue, but it could be worse. :(

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  5. EFMingo

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    Spent the last two days in the emergency room with my wife. Found out she is pregnant (which is great), but that it may be an ectopic pregnancy and she might have surgery before it causes damage. We were excited for about fifteen minutes before I spent the next hours listening to her suffer in pain, compounded by also recieving that news. Been a miserable weekend. I put on the strong or happy face for everyone, but it becomes hard to maintain. You can hold someone you love who is pain for so long. Then it starts to break you down.
     
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    Best of luck to you and her.

    I can sympathize some: I was once strapped to a backboard for 6 hours and taken to a different hospital after watching my wife get taken by helicopter to the local trauma center (car wreck). After those six hours, they released me without treating me for anything. After driving the 30 miles to her hospital, I spent the rest of the night in a chair next to her bed in her hospital room, waiting for her to wake up.

    But what you are going through sounds worse.
     
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    Yup. All the luck.
     
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    So sorry you're going through that. :supercry: Sending good vibes and prayers. :)
     
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    KaTrian A foolish little beast. Contributor

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    Sorry to hear about that. It's just terrible to watch a loved one suffer, it's like you'd give anything to somehow acquire their pain so you could suffer in their stead, even if just to give them a break. Let's hope things will get better quickly and you can continue being happy about the little newcomer. I wish you well!
     
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    EFMingo, there's not much I can do besides giving you and your wife my best wishes for a speedy recovery.
    Your pain, your angst have been aknowledged, and if sharing it with us eases some tiny part of it, then I'm glad I visited this thread.
     
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    I have to be in written connection with toxic.... thing X.

    It gets my stress level immediately up.

    All the roads and pavements are full of slush. It's not fun to go out and walk 10 000 steps of stress management walking.

    But every day takes me nearer and nearer to the situation where I know that I don't need to face, talk, email, phone, communicate in any way with that toxic... thing.
     
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    So my friend is an officer in the US military currently serving in Korea. His family name is that of a job, let's say "Farmer." It's not Farmer, but for the sake of this discussion it is. His rank is almost certainly not, but may be, lieutenant. In Japan, rather than signing documents, people are still required to use hanko stamps with their name on them. It's an incredibly insecure way of doing things, since once you've stamped a document anyone who gets a copy of it can perfectly copy your stamp, but anyway. I though it might be fun to get him a hanko with his name and rank in Japanese on it, so I went down to the local shop and explained that what I wanted. Farmer のーか in hiragana, and lieutenant 中尉 in kanji Chinese characters. The guy said he understood, gave me a price, and told me to come back in an hour.

    There was a failure to communicate. I ended up with two stamps, one that says のーか and one that says 中尉, not

    のーか
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    like I wanted.

    My fault, I think.
     
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    Just collected some broken light bulbs. They didn't wrap them in bubble wrap, and they didn't post them in a cardboard box. I also had to pay extra for a courier to deliver them. Feeling more than a bit pissed off, and ripped off.

    ETA: I have now opened them, and it was only one out of the six that was smashed, so that's not so bad. Still can not believe the inadequate packaging of glass objects though.
     
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    I feel your pain. Bought a $600 video card once, off the Internet. During shipping, it got bounced around so much the heat-sink-fan (cooler) on it broke partly off. I had to pay shipping to return it. And a friend got a microwave off the Internet -- didn't have to open the box to see it was wrecked in transit.

    I shop brick-and-mortar now whenever I can. And when I can't I order from someone (Barnes and Noble, Wal-Mart, Best-Buy, etc.) where I can have it shipped to a local store (preferably) and return it to that store if necessary.
     
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    She is visiting Finland.

    She will come back if you act nice and tell her that her new strawberry-lobster-turnip ice cream was not as bad as you said and that it was actually quite good without Swedish surstömming sauce.
     
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    Congratulations!


    My condolences!

    I'm gonna pray for you 3.
     
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    There's actually a really nice red curry sauce that I find goes rather well on vanilla ice cream.
     
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    You should taste my cinnamon chili on cheese some day.

    (70-80% Chocolade Habanero + other stuff. It is not as good if you use Fatalii. The taste is too weak if you make that mistake. And colour is not so nice.)
     
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    Likely never going to be able to have another kid. My wife's pregnancy has been confirmed ectopic and will have to be removed. The shot she has to get for it is used for cancer patients. Her likelihood of ever being able to be pregnant again falls off the chart because of it, and it was already low for other reasons. It's a disappointment, but I try to focus on making her healthy and comfortable. I don't want to see her in pain, and i hope that this next month of struggle in side effects will be worth it. I will love cherish my only son as I do now, but I will not have another. Wish this went another way.
     
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    I did this. Somehow, it felt excellent and gave me a smile.
     
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    Sorry about that. That sucks!
     
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    Felt odd liking @EFMingo 's post. Don't really "like" it, you know?
    Best of luck to you and yours, @EFMingo
     
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    This is crushing. I have no kids (I'm gay and have never attempted to do a surrogate type thing or any other option - I have hang-ups about stuff like that), but the one experience I would dearly love but will never have is to raise a child. I have a strong fatherhood urge that will never be satisfied. It kinda kills me to think that you want another kid and can't have one. You and your family have all my sympathies.
     
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    Thank you.
     
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