Lol don't feel bad, really! This was years ago. And I really have no feelings toward it any longer. I was simply giving an example of something that happened to me to show it's better to just let things go. Especially little things that people do mindlessly.
I would advise this: Don't think about any of the decisions you made while you were with her. That's all said and done. There's nothing can be changed. The most important thing is that you ended it. I don't think anyone would disagree with me that ending it was the best decision you could have made, and so it redeems any mistakes you think you may have made.
Thanks, I am glad I got out of that situation. Words can't describe how chaotic that was. I am the kind of person that dwells on things alot though, so I do wonder about it sometimes. But overall I agree with what you have said.
Ha simple, useless advcie. While at your age a lot of girls like the bad boy image (anything but the "good guy") give them a couple of years (of spending a few crappy years with the bad guy, whom wont change and they girls find out most are duds), then there all after the "good guys" - snap! Also your saying those ones that like sleeping around, arent after a loving relationship. Just sounds a little judgemental on that front. They might be getting both settled (love and lust)
Follow the advice of Polonius - "To thine own self be true." Nice guys finish last, but nice guys endure. Besides, when you do meet the right woman, both of you can learn to rejoice in the rewards of "finishing last." But never think less of yourself for not being a good Lothario. Although your peers may be in awe of the guys who rack up women like fighter pilots tally their kills, You are not less fro not being in that spotlight. Don't ever think you have to settle, or youwill likely become the prey of the woman who convinces you that you are lucky to have her, and who will never, ever let you realize that she is lucky to have YOU.
I agree with Cog's advice, it's pretty much spot on. Nice guys don't always finish last (it's a shame that it is so common). I personally wont settle for anything but a nice guy. Which is essentially why I'm still a single virgin. It goes both ways, really. The thing is though - I'm a much happier and confident person in myself for /not/ settling, and for striving for sincerity. You shouldn't feel down for always finishing last because you're not an arse like a lot of guys out there - you should be incredibly proud of yourself for being a genuine person, as you should. Girls that flock to the 'bad boys', or the boys that only 'want to get laid', usually have some issues and are insecure about themselves. They constantly need to be 'wanted'. And when a nice guy crosses paths with those types of females it never seems to end well, because the nice guys 'security' makes them feel even worse. Guys like you may have to wait it out, but guys like you will always end up with the best kind of girl. The kind of girl you'll be thankful you waited for because she'll welcome that quality in you and love you more for it.
Is this thread just fer problems with the other sex? What if you've found the perfect other half? though i guess that theres not much to say after that lol!
^ Then you leave and stop making us all miserable and bitter about our crappy relationships in comparison to yours
If you found your perfect other half, then you can offer advice on how the heck you managed to do that.
Lol id be happy to do so, and sorry ashleigh though he kinda just fell on my lap! Though i'll help with anything i can guys
Isn't it funny how you find what you are looking for when you are arent really trying? Sometimes it really does just fall into your lap, but you need all that practice screwing up with the wrong people to know what the hell to do with the right one when he/she comes around.
Don't count the failures...just learn from them. Oh, and if you can work them into an awesome comedy routine...
A good point, but I'm not sure I agree with the last part. I've never had a failure or a bad relationship, or anything like that at all. I think if you find the 'right one', it just works because you fit each other. You're both secure with yourselves and the relationship. It's the personal issues and the lack of understanding - I think - that is the main offender of a failed romance. Not that I would know from experience though lol. I think the only practice you get from screw ups is how to better deal with the next screw up. I would hope so anyway... since I have no practice in that area. xD
I don't think you absolutely need to have screw ups to be able to have a good lasting relationship, but you can learn what you want and don't want. That can help you identify the good one when it comes around. It also helps you grow and mature as a person. I didn't have major screw-ups in dating, but I learned form each relationship what I really did or didn't want in a partner and what I did and didn't want to BE as a partner. I think that my past relationships helped me to recognize a good catch in my husband and gave me the impetus to ask him out before he got away. Relationships take skill and effort. You don't start off knowing how to make them work. You learn. You can learn with one partner in one relationship. But dating multiple people can teach you a lot and I think can be very valuable.
I definitely agree with that. You do learn from them, and you take things away from them that are valuable in the long run. But I also think it depends on the person and their level of security in themselves and their image of relationships/love - as well as their understanding. I know exactly what I want in a partner and exactly who I want to be as a partner, yet I have no experience in having a relationship. The fact that I'm so picky being the main reason why. I'm not saying I'd know what to do - I doubt I would - but I think if you found the right person who equally understood you as you understood them, it would work itself out accordingly. But that could just be my wishful thinking. And probably is. What can I say? I cling on to the hope lol.
This Girl Is Exotic Okay...so um how do I put this. :redface: I made a new bred of girl that I am really attracted too. I think she is attracted to me as well, then again she may just be playing with me, but I kinda don't care. Cause I really like her obnoxious, exotic behavior. She likes to party, she smokes, and drinks. But for some reason I don't care. She got me to dance with her....dance wild that is. And well that felt good :redface: though I am concerned with going any farther with her because of her behavior. I have always been a goody goody. No drugs no drinking. But god I am so attracted to this woman...to this girl. I notice I tend to act.........more manly when I am around here too. I don't she's affecting my behavior and getting me out of my comfort zone. But I don't know if I want to do anything illegal, drinking and drugs. What do I do? I'm so attracted to this exoticness.
Lawl, lawl, lawl. No, I'm not laughing at you, sorry. I'm laughing at what I'm about to say, because it's such BS coming from me. Let's just say I've broken a LOT of rules to do what I want to. But, putting that aside, you really shouldn't do anything illegal. It's just bad no matter what. You don't have to do it to be cool, don't let anyone ever tell you that. And while you might not care about the things she does, if you're not sure about something, don't do it. Don't ever, ever, ever do anything you aren't sure about it. Because odds are you will regret it. And that always sucks. And yes, don't I give great advice? <.<
No its great advice. But...I just crave something like that. I crave the exotic and the toxic. I don't even know why exactly. I know it's something I'll regret, but at the same time it won't be something I regret. Because I have always wanted to be toxic. I just love the way I feel after doing something bad, I feel like I have relieved myself of the pressure of trying to be somebody. I just love it. I crave doing bad things because it makes me feel good, wild, and crazy. Like I have finally released myself from being this stiff board. It's really hard for me.
Being bad IS fun. And that's always problematic, because if it's fun you want to do it. I've done bad things many times and had tons of fun doing it. And I guess in moderation it's fine. But it's when it goes too over the top into all sorts of illegal and dangerous things that it's a bad idea, because in the end you look back and (in my experience, anyway) end up going "Who am I...?" But if you can find the balance between having fun being bad, and not doing things so bad that you either do something awful to yourself or get in lots of trouble for it, then yeah, it's tons of fun and well worth the risk. I mean, honestly, the risk makes it even more fun. Just find that line, and don't walk over it, because that's when you'll really regret things. If you manage to find that line and toe your way along it so that you can still do a lot of the things you'd like to, but not get too out of control, then things usually work a lot better.
I like a boy at school but can't even think about having any sort of 'romantic relationship' with him due to a simple fact: There is a no-dating policy at our school. So, as it stands right now, he doesn't even know I like him in that way (unless either A- It's obvious and I'm bad at hiding it, which is possible, or B- someone told him, which is also possible though not as likely). However, even though I know I cannot be 'with' him, I wish to tell him how I feel, just so he at least knows and I'll know he does. Whether he likes me or not, I need him to know. It hurts to keep it inside myself and to only be able to entrust the fact with close friends that may or may not even know him all that well. Does anyone know a way I could tell him without making it stressful for him in any way? And how can I tell him while remembering that there's a rule against inter-student relations? I wish him to know, as it isn't right for him not to, but I don't want him to think I forgot about that rule, either...
First off, that is one of the most idiotic rules I've ever heard. How can the school tell it's students they can't date? If you like him, you should ask him out anyways. What's the worse that the school can do about it?
It's a special private school. They say the reason the rule is there is so that "It doesn't cause any problems if you have a quarrel in the relationship and have therapy together the next day". It's a therapeutic school. Wouldn't it be better to have the quarrel and then talk about it in therapy though anyway? And, from what I've read in the student manual, you can be kicked out of the school for violating that rule. Or at least suspended (not sure which anymore). I could try that, though I don't know how he feels anyway. And I get nervous just being near him, as I'm not used to liking people in the real world- I'm usually scared of guys, actually. Still getting over that fear...
Well, if you really want to stay at that school, then keep your guys' relationship a secret, if a relationship happens. I say go ahead and at least try to ask him out. If nothing else, it'll be good practice for down the road.
