Hi! I'm a straight white woman looking for advice on writing a black lesbian woman that is a "soldier" (she belongs to a military type organization) who is no-nonsense, rational, and who has strong leadership skills. I don't picture her as particularly feminine, she always dresses professionally but plainly, in slacks and a button up, she doesn't where make-up, and she doesn't have very much patience for the excess or foppish. I expect that her military background is the reason for all this, but I don't want to play into any lesbian stereotypes either. Her lack of femininity will make her a good counter to another excessively well groomed character I am writing. Again, my main issue is I don't want to play into any butch lesbian stereotypes or any angry black women stereotypes. I also am having trouble with her hair. What it should look like and how to describe it. The "military" group isn't really that, so conformed short hair isn't required. How to handle her sexuality without making a big deal about it is also causing me some trouble. Her counter character is bisexual (not a love interest) but writing her seems a lot more natural for me. Her name, her name, her name, her name. Is picking a "black" name offensive? Is ignoring the names that are commonly given to black people offensive? Her name must start with an A. She felt like and A to me as soon as I started thinking up her personality and it has a nice alliteration with Anna, the well groomed and proper bisexual counter. She's in her early 30s, her mother was a "military" woman herself. I want a more "black" (oh dear Lord that sounds so bad) name I think, but *sigh* maybe I'm overthinking all of this?