Can men be bisexual?

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  1. big soft moose

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    I'm saying you don't have a big enough sample* to draw conclusions about what 'people in general' do (neither do I but I'm not drawing those conclusions, you are) ... IMO no one can generalise about these things FWB can be a terrific idea or a terrible one depending on individual circumstances and characters.

    Likewise a romantic relationship can be a great idea or a terrible one depending on the same factors

    As can casual sex

    EOTD its not wise to generalise about something that is so dependent on multiple factors that change with each case

    (* research by Mori indicates that in the Uk you need a sample of at least 2000 for findings to be statistically significant to the population... I'd imagine that in America its probably more like 10k ..)
     
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    So, I just had to tell my boyfriend he's gay.
    Damn you, internetz!
     
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    And then things got more interesting...

    Why blame the internet for someone elses sexual preference?
    Just being curio.
     
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    Sounds bisexual-heteroromantic to me, but as @izzybot mentioned, maybe he just hasn't found the right guy yet.

    Maybe he's a sexual 3 on the Kinsey (50% gay, 50% straight) but a romantic 1 (17% gay, 83% straight) if he's fallen in love with women but not with a man yet?

    @LostThePlot Basically, Moose was saying that your evidence "I do this" would support the claim "some people do this," but that it doesn't support your claim "most, if not all, people do this"
     
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    It was a joke, plain and simple.

    I'mma go work at my routine someplace else... :whistle:
     
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    This ^, plus what @Simpson17866 said.
     
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    Take my word for it, this is a tough crowd.
     
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    I love sex and porn. Just thought I'd share that.
     
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    Somehow this comes as...not a shock to me. :p
     
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    I refer to myself as non-discriminatory. Unfortunately this isn't the first time I've heard of this and there seems to be some confusion about how bisexuality works even among the LGBTQ community. Most frequently I hear that being bi means you're actually straight but trying to be edgy, you're actually gay but trying to hide it, you're on your way to being gay, or just basically confused about who you like. Then depending on who you're dating ATM, they're all like, "so turns out you're actually gay/straight after all." Not to mention that being bi means I'm more likely to cheat on you, because apparently the entire time we're dating I'll be craving penis/labia the entire time. Porn is easier, at least it doesn't judge back.
     
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    Biphobia is just as bad as bi erasure, and you're right it's sadly LGBT folks taking part in just as much as straight ones. I actually have a scene in my WIP where one of my MC's calls the other out on a biphobic comment, and it's based off of the personal experience of one of my bisexual friends and her lesbian girlfriend.
     
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    How on earth could you find both Calista Flockheart and Christina Hendricks attractive?

    ETA: But seriously, it sounds to me like OP's friend is applying a sort of "one drop" rule to sexuality. I grew up in a very conservative, religious environment where that sort of attitude was common: Straight men are attracted strictly to women, and any man who is even remotely attracted to men is gay, no matter how many relationships/encounters he has with women either before or after his first M/M contact.

    Not a theory I subscribe to.
     
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  15. isaac223

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    No. The second a man is interested in anything but T&A he is officially a woman, didn't you know that?

    Yes, of course men can be bisexual. I don't see why not.
     
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    Wait, so if a man becomes interested in men, he then becomes a woman, making it my duty, as a straight man, to become attracted to him (who is now technically her)?

    I'm so confused :)
     
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    Obviously. It is the duty of every self-respecting heterosexual man to chase every skirt, even if that skirt used to be a suit.
     
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    God, I wish that were me.
     
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    To be totally honest, though, I'm a bit disappointed now that, thanks to this thread's tags, all I'll ever see when I search this site for bisexual men is this post.
     
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    How do kilts figure into this? I need to know, for science.
     
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    :agreed:
     
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    If it's pretty hit it, or don't hit it. There is no gay.
     
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    Seriously..
    The whole "There's no such thing as bisexuals" is just a hate campaign that people bought into for god knows what insecurity reasons.
    There are tons of bisexual men who equally enjoy both sexes or have a least a fair interest in either/or.
    Like.. There's already a fair amount of hate toward bi's in the gay community, never mind the weird shit they get from the straight world.
     
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  25. isaac223

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    Are you kidding? Bisexuals are just a myth. My mommy used to tell me if I wasn't good and brushed my teeth before bed, bisexual men would come and take me from my room.
     
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