Well, I guess that depends on if they have a story to write. Is he/she writing a story? Maybe you've inspired them?
Do you not know your lover's gender??? It's very generous of you to respect his/her privacy like that!
Whatever. Sorry for the stupid thread. It's just like writing is the thing I struggle with and someone who loves me thinks maybe it's not so hard. But if you guys don't get that, it's cool. I think talent trumps gender.
It's easy to get caught up in the struggle. When you've fought so hard for or against something, we inflate its meaning. After all, if our struggle isn't grand or extraordinary, then what justification do we have for fighting so hard and for so long? Then there are futher steps, where we attach ourselves to the idea. At this stage, any attack on the idea is precieved as a personal attack on us, on who we are. All I can say is take a step back. Then another. Then jog backwards a bit, make sure to look over your should and behind you, don't want to trip. Then look at the situation. Writing, stories, language... they're all important, but they're pieces to a larger whole that is humanity. All of humanity is important. TL/DR: Take a breath, get some perspective, take another breath. Keep the breathing up, trust me, it'll add years to your life. Also, not really sure where this whole "talent/gender" argument is coming from. A few people just pointed out it was a bit odd that you seemed to be making such a large point of being gender neutral.
This whole thing was stupid. There's no cap on writers. It's just that I write full time and my lover came home and like nothing produced beautiful pages. Where are my beautiful pages? This was nothing but jealousy, an ugly color on us all. I'm sorry for venting so quickly. I love that my lover can play with words the way I can or better. Maybe I am the muse, said the one with the MFA degree.
Everybody is a writer! Especially with these metallic pieces in our hands and the constant habit of texting instead of talking. Whenever I read comments on YouTube, Facebook or any other site I get this idea that writing has become more accessible to general population. Nowadays, we need to make sure we have even more validation so we don't get grouped into the 'Ala- umm.. I wrote a story and published it on deviantart. I'm a true writer now!'
I was confused because you didn't specify in the original post that you thought he/she had produced better work than you did. You just said that she/he wanted to write, and I was confused as to why that was such a horrible thing.
It's not a horrible thing at all. I think I was way off base with my initial reaction and probably should have given the whole idea some more thought before posting anything. It's just that I was caught by surprise when my SO decided to write too. But I think it actually could be a good thing.
Why such a bad initial reaction? I haven't the faintest idea why it would be such a terrible thing for him/her to decide on his/her own that he/she wants to write. Writing is not a sacred practice reserved for those with the credentials. I'd be thrilled if my wife/husband said she/he wanted to try his/her hand at writing.
I think that most of us are storytellers as soon as we learn to speak. Some are better at that than others are. That's as true for literate people as for illiterate people. And there are those who work hard at their storytelling. They try to make it better, and test different ways to tell the story, usually while writing it and revising it endlessly. You might be one of those. Others write and revise the story in their heads, so that by the time they finally get to the keyboard or the paper, it's pretty well finished. (I've heard that Isaac Asimov was one of those people. By the time he actually sat down at the typewriter, everything was already clear in his mind, down to the last comma.) Maybe you're discouraged because you're trying something harder than you lover is doing, rather than sticking to the usual courses of writing. I wouldn't worry about it unduly. Let your lover's talents flourish as much as they will, and cultivate your own garden.
Always remember, as long as you're writing then what does it matter? Each story is it's own, some are pretty, some are gnarled, but most are somewhere in between. There are no rules to writing, just write like nothing else matters.
It really depends on how you define writer. To me, someone who studies the craft and strives to improve through practice is a writer. Writing is tough and requires hard work and dedication. Not everyone has what it takes. Based on this definition, not everyone is a writer. Just my opinion of course.
no i can tell you from experience, not every person is a writer. I know several people in fact that don't write. But some people do. You are with one of those people.
The real question is: Is everyone a lover? All of the sudden my lover thinks she is a lover and I am writing about it.
I kind of get the impression that you think this is a bad thing. It really doesn't have to be. Having someone that supports you and understands you and share a passion with is kind of amazing. Not to mention all of the writing creativity you can feed each other as a couple. You could be like a less tragic version of Percy and Mary Shelly.
