I've met a lot of people who seem to think they know more about my characters than I do, which is laughable because I know them from the cradle to the grave. When I look at my list of characters, I realize that most of their defining moments happened long before the story began and will never be written, yet, it's those moments that define who they are as individuals. For one character, that's his first kiss, for another it's the moment his wife died, and for another it was seeing the horrors of war. Those moments have direct bearing on how my characters will respond in an number of situations and to each other, but have no bearing on the story, which is why they will never be written. That got me thinking about defining moments in our own lives. If I outlined my life, just as I would a story, what would be my defining moment? I really don't know, and even if I did, I'm not sure I'd share it. Do defining moments happen in real life or are they pure fiction? And do any of your characters have defining moments that shape who they are?