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  1. Tenderiser

    Tenderiser Not a man Contest Administrator Contributor

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    Suggestion Display gender under avatar?

    Discussion in 'Support & Feedback' started by Tenderiser, Sep 11, 2016.

    I've felt embarrassed before when I realised I was calling a female poster 'he' and vice versa. I muddy the waters by having a man as my avatar, as do others, and while I don't mind being misgendered I feel really rude (and stupid) when I do it to others.

    Would it be possible to display our gender under our avatar along with our location, post count, join date, etc?

    Obviously some people don't disclose their gender, but most of us do and it would help everyone else use the correct pronouns.

    Thought I'd post and see if anybody else would like to see this, if it's even possible?
     
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  2. Wreybies

    Wreybies The Ops Pops Operations Manager Staff Contest Administrator Supporter Contributor

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    I've looked for this before in the Xenforo™ forum and what I run into is a flood of posts/threads asking for how to do the opposite as regards the "member card" (remove the gender display). If someone clicks your avatar, they will see your gender in the member card if you have disclosed it in the registration. I don't find a thing that makes it appear in the member badge, as such.

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    Tenderiser Not a man Contest Administrator Contributor

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    Aw. :(

    I'll just call everyone 'it'. I don't envisage any problems with this solution.
     
  4. Sack-a-Doo!

    Sack-a-Doo! Contributing Member Contributor

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    Perhaps this would be an opportunity for us to try out the 'te' vs. 'them' thing ('te' being a generic third-person pronoun to replace both 'she' and 'he'). :)
     
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    Komposten Insanitary pile of rotten fruit Staff Supporter Contributor

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    Would that be pronounced as 'tea'?
     
  6. Sack-a-Doo!

    Sack-a-Doo! Contributing Member Contributor

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    Yup, rhymes with 'she,' 'he,' 'we,' and 'me.'

    And since it's not already a word, it's up for grabs.
     
  7. Wreybies

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    Ok, then what's the object pronoun form for "te"?
     
  8. Mumble Bee

    Mumble Bee Custom Title. Contributor

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    Wait, isn't te just like the word in Spanish that stands for 'you'?

    I can't tell if that's lazy or genius.
     
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    Oh, it's genius, I can assure you. :supersmile:
     
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    That would be 'tim'...

    No, wait... 'ter'...

    'terim?' (Hmm... spell-checker didn't flag that... OH, wait! It did!

    How about 'ta?'

    Or 'tem'

    Yeah, I like the last one best. (Whew! That was hard.)
     
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    And possessive would be 'tes.'
     
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    Imaginarily Disparu en Mer Contributor

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    :wtf:
     
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    Tenderiser Not a man Contest Administrator Contributor

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    Hey, it.
     
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    Imaginarily Disparu en Mer Contributor

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    @Tenderiser I love you but I will cut you so bad you wish I no cut you.. if you keep calling me 'it.' :-D :wtf:
     
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    Tenderiser Not a man Contest Administrator Contributor

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    Ooh, it gets fiesty.
     
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    Well, guys, as someone who treads the line between genders, I don't mind what people call me, it's just nice to be noticed....
     
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    I can keep this up all day long.



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    When people call me "he" I tend to assume that it's because I communicated in a non-stereotypical-female way. And I find it interesting. So it gives me a few moments of amateur psychology analysis. Where's the down side?

    But, yeah, I'd also be fine with seeing gender.
     
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    Tenderiser Not a man Contest Administrator Contributor

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    I used to think you were a he because of your avatar, which makes no sense because I have no idea if that's a female or male chicken. But some genderless avatars make me make think male and others female.

    I think I communicate in a pretty stereotypical female way, and I get 'he'd a lot.
     
  21. BayView

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    You absolutely get "he" because of your avatar. I know you've explained who he is, I know you've said he's not you, I know you're female. But I still picture you as a vaguely feminized version of your avatar, with a sort of Ally-Sheedy-at-the-end-of-Breakfast-Club hairband instead of a beret or whatever's on his head. Just so you know.

    ETA: I picture @ChickenFreak as something pretty close to Big Bird.

    I seem to have too much imagination/too firm of a commitment to avatars and user-names.
     
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    No, I think you're on to something, because I am, in fact, a sign.
     
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    Tenderiser Not a man Contest Administrator Contributor

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    I picture Chicken Freak as an actual chicken, though I'm not sure how she types.

    And you're a brooding gay man.
     
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    Not a very good sign, frankly.
     
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    You know it!
     
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