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  1. REplAyLove

    REplAyLove New Member

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    Emotional problems while writing?

    Discussion in 'General Writing' started by REplAyLove, Sep 2, 2012.

    I have become emotionally attached to my novel and at times, it upsets me to the point I don't want to continue writing it. It has become hard in these mid-late stages and was wondering if anybody has ever experienced this. If so, what did you do to get past it? Thank you ahead of time, any input is appreciated.
     
  2. peachalulu

    peachalulu Contributing Member Reviewer Contributor

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    Not quite sure what you mean. Are you afraid of failing and that it won't be good enough?
     
  3. REplAyLove

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    Oh my, no haha. I have become attached to the story. Certain chapters make me feel so upset that I don't want to continue writing them. The characters, setting, everything has just become a part of me and when something upsetting happens in the story, it actually is starting to affect me emotionally.
     
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    peachalulu Contributing Member Reviewer Contributor

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    This happened to me a few times, I wrote a scene that made me cry -
    I felt like Kathleen Turner in Romancing the Stone sobbing over her ending and exclaiming - God, that's good!

    I take a break, get away from them for a while. Keep a bit of distance from your characters, growing
    too attatched to them can turn them into a pile of precious kittens - you don't want anything
    to happen to them and then you start coddling them.
     
  5. REplAyLove

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    Haha! Thank you so much :love:
     
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    I would imagine if that amount of emotion is going into the piece, the reader can't fail to get it back! I know when I've written songs that I've connected with like this it usually comes back out to the listener.

    Other times I just seem like an over emotional washed up musician sobbing into my guitar! Haha :rolleyes:
     
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    I felt like crying to my MC in a certain chapter, and was angry for her in another one. It's part of being a writer. Characters, once they become real enough to you, will feel like old friends, and you hate to leave the computer, and them, each time you have to leave.
     
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    For some reason I don't feel anything from my characters when I write. But the only reaction I get is laughter when funny situations happen to my characters.

    But yah, it is okay to feel connected to your characters. It will help you realize how real your characters sound like so your readers can enjoy them.
     
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    I've never quite understood this, personally. Maybe I have yet to write up a story that touches me on that level, or maybe I'm just cold-blooded, but it always seemed a little over-dramatic when I hear writers talking about how they've become 'attached' to their stories on an emotional level.

    It's great that you feel something for the character you've created; that means (s)he's real and has depth. If you feel that well, it's likely so will your reader.

    That being said. Be weary of attaching yourself emotionally to your characters beyond a certain level. You'll begin to subconsciously coddle them because you don't want them to 'get hurt' or something ridiculous like that.
     
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    What an interesting dynamic here, becoming emotionally involved with a work-in-progress. Makes sense and maybe an important part of developing the characters and storyline as your book unfolds.
     
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    If you can become emotionally involved then great job! I have yet to write a story that made me cry. I wish I could though, it means that you're writing extremely well! If I ever found myself in your shoes though I would shut off the computer for awhile, watch some Mean Girls then come back next week, or earlier it's up to you! :)

    Hope this helps!
    Celestey!
     

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