So I started this on another website: I've been looking for songs lately that a completely-nonromantic best friend couple could still think of as Their Song, but almost all of the love songs that I'd been able to find were too blatantly romantic to work. I think that platonic friend love deserves more attention than this, and I'd like to celebrate the love songs that can be used nonromantically. And it just came up in conversation that people here (@NoGoodNobu in particular) might also like to do the same thing. The songs that I originally posted on the other site were: And so far the songs that other people there have added (some of which are more family love than friend love, not what I was originally thinking but I don't see anything wrong with that) are Wiz Khalifa - See You Again (ft. Charlie Puth) Jewel - Family Tree Ruelle - Up In Flames Stevie Wonder - Isn't She Lovely Sufyan Stephens - Futile Devices Velvet Underground - I'm Sticking with You Queen - You're My Best Friend Classic Sesame Street - That's What Friends Are For James Taylor - You Got a Friend Anybody else have any that they'd like to share?
Huh. This could just be me being out of practice having friends but could two Platonic Life Partners – who are both unusually loud about everything they do, with or without each other – maybe look at platonic couple songs more comfortably than that?
My partner and I actually kind of claim 500 Miles as 'our song' Others that come to mind: Something About Us - Daft Punk Melancholy Hill - Gorillaz VCR - The xx
Lean On Me by The Temptations With A Little Help From My Friends by the Beatles or the version by Joe Cocker (Woodstock Album)
Paramore - Hate To See Your Heart Break I always heard it as a friend comforting another friend after a bad break up or bad let down It's hard for me to think of music, as my iPod tends to be filled with foreign musicーof which I have differing levels of competency in comprehending, and I might be missing some social context or language complexity that makes it appropriate or inappropriate to appropriate for platonic relations And to be clear, my female best friend is absolutely the platonic love of my life. We have nothing romantic between us, but we are more intimate than most people understand and we've been continuously accused throughout our friendship of being lesbian lovers (which we are not; we have no interest in sexual intercourse with each other or others of the same gender; we just don't engage in frivolous relationships, which included for us casual dating). She & I idenitify our relation with "love songs" and "love stories" as imperfect ideas of our relation. Often we're always saddened that every time one of us thinks we find a relationship or character dynamic that mirrors ours, it plays out eventually romantic. But to be honest, after 10 years of friendship and 8 as insanely close best friends, we aren't uncomfortable with playing pretend with the romance. I'll take her on "dates" or do grand romantic gesutures for Valentine's Day, or we'll sing each other ballads or something equally ridiculous. People have been misconstruing our intense friendship from the get-go, so we don't really care at this point how it looks. We understand what we have, so until there are some better songs or stories that reflect platonic relations, we're totally comfortable stealing the romances.
I do not believe anymore that I have anything to worry about My two characters do not go that far. Or maybe they will later on, I don't know anymore Probably not? Anyway, if I may contribute one of my own ideas again: I'm thinking that my platonic couple specifically have settled on Kelly Clarkson, because they are both nerds and because the song has been used on Youtube to celebrate the non-romantic loves (despite the fact that both videos have one second each that make the relationships look romantic even though they most certainly are not) between 10/Donna and Buffy/Giles
Don't worry, we tend to be extremes. She & I have always been playful & a little mischievous, so when we got tired of trying to fight the allegations, we just decided in the end that if we're gonna get accused of romantic liaisons anyway that we might as well enjoy the fun bits. If our personalities were less eccentric & more sedate, we probably would just quietly but fervently cherish one another. As it is—when she had to spend her birthday at a family member's funeral & I told her I'd still spend it with her only to show up wearing almost the same vintage mourning attire, and when none of her relatives could remember who she was or which of us was even her—we ended up playing a game of switching places every few minutes to see if anyone would catch on. Basically there is some level of immaturity to us, so we have less social inhibitions. I think it's merely our nature Our other best friend (more recently in attaining intimacy) has a lot softer, more tender & level sort of platonic affection for us. His sort of love is more revealed in the steadiness of his character, his indefatigable reliability & boundless loyalty, and his beyond considerate actions. And our intimacy with him was a slow organic process over many years—as opposed to her & my relation which was established in sudden traumas in her life and melodrama in mine, then made irrevocable by our choices to stand firm beside the other in getting through them all together. All the turmoil happened in the span of a single year & most incidents and dilemmas overlapped. There is nothing quite like trial by fire to forge two souls in intense intimacy; the effect was as immediate as it has been lasting. I don't think all platonic relationships are the same, and what's normal or acceptable among certain individuals may be very different for others. And that's perfectly okay too. I'm sure you're characters will be wonderful, no matter the type or tone of bond between them.
Well, I just started looking through my iTunes library for fun, and there's "And I" by Boxcar Racer. The singer is crazy about a girl, but the song is more about the friend who's always 'pulling him through' the situation. Maybe a wingman, or a girl he doesn't have to be so serious with. Otherwise I'm having a real difficult time with this, and Nobu already took Paramore's "Hate to See Your Heart Break". I know Paramore has a couple more songs that are about a friend, but I don't think it's about platonic love... I don't really have a good grasp of platonic love. I have friends, obviously, but it's not really something that's expressed... except a select couple friends who get a little too touchy feely for me when they're drunk or high. Long story short, what I'm saying is that if I come across a song that could be about a platonic friend, I almost certainly interpret it as a love song. P.S. Paramore's song "All We Know" was written about Jeremy Davis, the band's bassist, when he left the first time. Their song "Brighter" is also about a close friend of the lead singer's who passed away in a boating accident. P.S.S. blink-182's "Man Overboard" is about kicking their friend Scott Raynor out of the band. Don't know if I'm missing the mark with these. Platonic love is a weird concept to me.
Two more. I'll be there for you by the Rembrandt's (Friends sitcom theme song) Anytime you need a friend by Mariah Carey
Lights — Quiet nano — Start Over Reliant K — Come Right and Say It OneRepublic — Counting Stars (sorta) I actually am rather surprised at how few English songs I have "Quiet" might be my favourite to use for a platonic love song
This is a really good idea. I listen to contemporary Christian music & almost all of it is encouragement for a friend. I know most people don't like Christian music but the lyrics are great! They're not always about the same old thing & hardly ever about "religion". I won't list any here because I don't want to offend anyone. But take a listen sometime! Not the old stuff - the new stuff.
There Is A Light And It Never Goes Out, for a bit of a darker turn: And Eulogy For You And Me, which I guess is more a platonic break-up song:
James Taylor - You've Got a Friend. And maybe Fire and Rain? Randy Newman - You've Got a Friend in Me Queen - You're my Best Friend Lean on Me in lots of versions Stand By Me That's What Friends Are For - by all those 80s artists Wind Beneath My Wings - Bette Midler