First of all, I’m going to hell. Please don’t argue this with me, I just feel awful and would rather a huge hammer came down on my head. Anyways… So my man and I are long distance and he came to visit me. He used my computer to log into his email and forgot to log himself out. Well, you can probably guess what happened when I discovered this after he was gone…I found myself overcome by curiosity, and as a naturally paranoid person, I wanted to make sure I wasn’t being played. He really didn’t seem like the type, and I really regret my actions, but split milk and all that. After reviewing some of his emails it became quite apparent he had some other woman in his life. Was it a fling? I don’t think so, but the content of the emails made me distinctly uncomfortable. He told her “I love you”…called her “my lady”…and said “love forever”. These are not the words of a close friendship but the kind of stuff he said to me once we dated! And while the conversation appear to have died out (because of her, since he definitely emailed asking her to respond) and he did mention me in the emails, there was a brief overlap of when he said he loved me and only me, and also told her “I love you” and all that. I’m sick to my stomach. On one level I feel like I don’t even have the right to complain as I violated his trust and checked out his emails. On the other I feel violated since I feel like if he had such a close friendship, one bordering on romantic, that he should have been upfront about her. I heard her name a few times, and there’s nothing in the email that specifically says he’s having a fling (no “last night was great” or “don’t worry the girlfriend won’t know) I still am in turmoil since he’s keeping this from me. I don’t know why he would hide it, except that he knows the average person would be uncomfortable with it and he probably feared the same with me. Far as I understand the email conversation ended, as I said, and he’s been extremely loyal to me otherwise. He’s a great guy, sweet, kind, caring and I love him more than anything. But I feel wronged somehow and I don’t know how to get over it. What do you recommend? Do I just fess up to reading his emails and demand some explanation about the too close for comfort friendship or do I keep my mouth shut seeing as I shouldn’t have this information in the first place? Any advice you could give would be appreciated—I’m totally reeling from this and need something, anything to help me.