A guy who lost many jobs and wrecked two cars in three months promised his soon to be ex wife that he would stop playing mobile games. Always have to drive in 180 km/h while ignoring red lights, so that he can get back to playing mobile games. Acts like a violent drug addict in withdrawal if he haven't played games for one hour, so he gets almost no sleep. His dopamine receptors must be very few by now, because energy drinks pile up. In the morning after the second car crash that could have killed him and his sons, he's back playing mobile games using two phones at the same time. Is there any hope for him?
Unless he wants to change there is no hope. So maybe that's where you should start. Also on a side note, I'm definitely subscribing to that science channel.
Well maybe after his wife's gone and his children grow to resent him he will change his tune. All you can do is be supportive to recovery. Not enable though and if you feel that's not possible to do then leave him to his own devices. Literally. Have you mentioned anything to him about it?
I usually tell his wife how to handle it. She was my friend before she met him. Don't want her sons to grow up without a father even if he's an abusive sociopath who shouldn't be left alone with them.
As it has been said, it's difficult to make someone change who doesn't want to change. The best thing to do is to suggest idea (oblically) that he's habbits are being destructive to his life. If he thinks he's come to the realisation himself he will act more upon it than if you tell him. People don't like to be told what to do, they like to think they've figured everything out by themselves and that they're the smartest in ther oom. So just nudge them in the right direction, make him think it was his own idea. Otherwise, if you force his hand, you'll either make him play more mobile phones, or you will succeed in breaking his habbits but he'll hate you for it (until he realises it was the right decision on your behalf). I've intervened once with a very, very good friend that was a severe alcoholic. I went to his house, poured all his booze down the sink and baby-sat him. He hated me for months when he was sober until one day I received a text to say I was right and he was sorry. I think the only reason why it passed is because we've been friends for close to two decades (since the age of 5-6).
realistically this can be filed under 'not your business' ... i strongly doubt he will be receptive to you telling him anything especially if you are really his wife's friend not his. incidentally driving like that is not to... 'get back to playing phone games'... its because hes an idiot who drives recklessly.. the beauty of a phone is that you can take it wherever you are, so if he was that addicted he'd just have the phone in his pocket or at any rate in the car
I agree with @big soft moose. You're treading on dangerous ground if you're getting yourself involved in someone else's family affairs. If the situation deteriorates, you won't be thanked for it, and you could lose a friend. If you seriously consider the children to be at risk, report it to the authorities. Don't get between a man and his wife. That never ends well.
I desperately hope that "sociopath" is just a figure of speech and not a term, describing his real condition, because if it is - it's bad, bad news.
If he's that bad then let whatever will happen to him happen. Having a problem is one thing, but to continue with it despite how it affects other people is a whole different story.
He tried to prove his love by offering her to chop off one of his fingers, and made up a horror story about having worked at a women's shelter. I have an audio recording where he talks about women's bloody faces, while being completely detached emotionally.
Okay, time for an intervention! It sounds like the phone isn't the issue to be concerned about. The issue is the danger to others. No medical advice! This is a time-bomb threat that the authorities need to be aware of. I speak only from direct experience, not professional. This will end in some degree of not-well. If you want it to be on the lesser side, do your duty as a citizen. All my hopes and prayers.
This is now in the realms of stuff this forum isn't going to get involved in giving advice about - get advice from an actual professional
