I have read the opinions of some, saying that attraction to a girl's looks is nothing but lust, and that attraction should be based solely on her personality. But even though I love the personality of a girl, especially one that is kind, having all the qualities I desire, I am also attracted to looks, and cannot find myself being happy with someone who I do not think is beautiful. Therefore, when I see two different girls, the one attractive, and the other unattractive, I am inclined to talk to the attractive one, not for any selfish sexual purpose, but to get to know them in order to establish a relationship of commitment. Unfortunately, I have never been able to form such a relationship with a girl. But what is your opinion on this matter? Isn't it sexual attraction that first draws you to a person? Or should we entirely reject sexual attraction and pursue people that we know for personality's sake? I am not saying that personality is unimportant, or that we should pursue mean-spirited attractive people, but that we should not base our decision solely on personality, but also on who we find beautiful to us. People seem divided on this issue, some saying that we should simply date a friend who we have known for a long time, because we know them so well, and saying that the more we know a person, the more beautiful they appear to us. But though the appearance of a person has become less repulsive to me the more I have known a person, I have never been able to find them beautiful. It is therefore my opinion that a relationship should be built on both sexual and emotional attraction. However, I don't consider myself very attractive, so I'm not sure what to do about that. What is your opinion?