1. pitviper

    pitviper Member

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    Just left social media....

    Discussion in 'The Lounge' started by pitviper, Dec 25, 2016.

    ... a week ago. Too negative, too much drama. Single mom, published writer, desperate for human contact. ;)
     
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  2. Iain Aschendale

    Iain Aschendale Benevolent Ochlocrat Staff Supporter Contributor

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    Just re-opened my Facebook for Christmas greetings, and getting ready to shut it down again soon.
     
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  3. big soft moose

    big soft moose The Moderating Moose Staff Supporter Contributor Community Volunteer

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    Tbh my facebook isn't too bad - but then I only friend people that I either know in real life or know well from forums etc , and my profile is set to friends only , which removes a lot of the waah waah waah. Principally its a cheap way of keeping up with mates spread all over the globe.
     
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  4. Iain Aschendale

    Iain Aschendale Benevolent Ochlocrat Staff Supporter Contributor

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    Mine too, only 60-odd people there (and some of them are very odd), but I just got overwhelmed in the runup to the election. Very bright, politically aware friends, left me reading an hour of news every morning, I needed a break.
     
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  5. Tea@3

    Tea@3 Senior Member

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    Were you on facebook to promote writing or just socially?

    I was weighing reactivating mine but then I saw your thread here...

    I dunno. I'm hesitant to wade back in. For some reason it rubs me wrong and I can't identify why.
     
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  6. Link the Writer

    Link the Writer Flipping Out For A Good Story. Contributor

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    I'm on Facebook now, and there's not much negativity going on. Then again, I avoid interacting in comments that involve religion, politics, and other hotbuttoned issues.
     
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  7. Krispee

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    I guess it depends on why you are there and what you use it for. There are reasons for using it in relation to business, especially if you are a writer. Keeping people apprised of updates etc. A lot of people use it for keeping in touch with old friends. I use to post my artworks mostly so don`t get involved with too much of the crappy stuff that goes on.
    Just depends doesn`t it.
     
  8. Tea@3

    Tea@3 Senior Member

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    But are they really 'in' touch?

    For the time I was on there, it felt like a hollow connection, not an authentic one.

    Kind of like chewing air.
     
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    depends on how you use it - mostly i just use messenger in the same way I would email or a chat app... its as authentic as it gets when you are three thousand miles apart
     
  10. Tea@3

    Tea@3 Senior Member

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    I get ya on the 3000 miles.

    Still it seems like something is missing or 'off' with the new social media dynamic. As I look back I felt infinitely more 'connected', (or perhaps more intimately connected), to friends and family in the 90s and prior. I suspect it has something to do with the real act of actually looking someone in the eye then. Today we have settled for 'surrogate' contact methods, which leave one wanting. (IMO)

    So many people prefer to text or whatever than to actually engage another person. For all they know they are talking to a bot.


    Yet, in this era I don't know how to avoid the new dynamics. It's just the lay of the land.

    ...but everyone seems so unfulfilled, nonetheless. Reminds me of Edward Hopper's paintings.


    Cheers,

    --T
     
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  11. Krispee

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    Perhaps it`s just the distance itself, even when you are writing the message your mind is already telling you they just aren`t there. Also maybe FB and Twitter are more relatable to those who need to feel connected a bit more, or just don`t have those connections, and FB gives them the chance to connect when they aren`t able to normally.
    Would that be a fair assessment?
    I do agree that relying on these types of social interaction are maybe damaging to us in the long run.
     
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  12. Tea@3

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    Very well put. Thanks.
     
  13. Mumble Bee

    Mumble Bee Keep writing. Contributor

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    A lot of people are held hostage by social media by the idea of if you don't have one, it means you don't care about the people in your life.

    Personally, I gave up social media (and my cellphone, though I'm not trying to recommend anyone do that) a year ago.
    My life problems went down by a huge margin.
     
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  14. Iain Aschendale

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    And your username! How'd you swing that one?
     
  15. Mumble Bee

    Mumble Bee Keep writing. Contributor

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    I did things, terrible things, things I wouldn't even do for a Klondike bar...
     
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    Tea@3 Senior Member

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    That's awesome, so awesome. You have inspired me!!! :)
     
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    That is an interesting point. These days it can be seen as being part of the in crowd if you are part of the social media scene. A bit like watching a popular tv program just because you want to be able to talk about it when you are at work.
     
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  18. Senko

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    Social media and Young people is like tea and water to me. But, is it really an issue?
    I don´t see any problema with social media.
    Unless... you feel forced to check/post every five minutes.
    Don´t take it wrong. This is just a point of view. For people that grew up with this, maybe it´s just a way of living.
     
  19. Lifeline

    Lifeline North of South. Contributor

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    Me too, and about at the same time. It's much more quiet and relaxed. :)
    Yeah, but there are all those relatives who pressure me to take at least a cellphone again. Resistance is NOT futile! :twisted: I'll not give in!
     
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  20. Tea@3

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    I've read quite a lot about it recently. There are some good studies out there. Everything is relative, but many of the studies are painting a dim picture of social media.

    The anecdotal data most interests me. I've collected two dozen articles of people explaining why they ''left facebook" or whatever. Very interesting reading.

    I myself went on facebook in June and killed my account Oct 1st. Ninety days was enough to see, for me at least, that there's no there there.

    Just my humble opinion. <modswestillneedtoaddthatraisedbeermugemojisoicanstophavingtotypealltheseletters>
     
  21. Crazy-catfish

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    Oh I HATE social media...with a vengeance! To me it's nothing more than a popularity contest. People are judged by how many 'friends' they can accumulate, and who can look the best, make the funniest comment etc. Nah, not for me....too much bullshit goes on in real life for me to give two craps about what fake ass rubbish, people decide to post to gain attention on SM.

    I'm not really a grumpy old witch though....honest ;)
     
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    Facebook's just highschool for adults too stupid to move on from highschool. Welcome to the real world, of things, and stuff, and writing.

    Be warned: Now that you have broken free of the insipid cycle of progressively more destructive gossip, you will rediscover yourself anew. A forgotten history lies within those who have delved too deeply into the Face of Book.

    Relearn thyself- though it may destroy you.
     
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  23. Tea@3

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    Perfectly put lol. I 'concur'. (in my best Leo DiCaprio voice) :)

    Oooooh. You had me at 'destroy' ;)

    I'm totally game. :twisted:
     
  24. Tea@3

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    Pitviper must not really be as desperate as she made out, lol. :)
     
  25. writemare

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    I much prefer boards like this to Facebook or whatever is out there now. I do have a twitter and Gavatar account but that's mainly to keep up people like Tony Robbins who Stephen King and the like. I try to keep my "Social Media" time to less then 5% of my time on computer.
     

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