In a discussion at my writers' group tonight, one of our members asked us if we knew a pronoun to use for characters who are (supernatural) asexual beings? These are sentient beings with superior language skills and other powers, but they consist of pure energy. They appear to humans as male humanoids, but they are not male or female. (A distinction which is important to her story.) Gender doesn't exist at all for these beings. My writer friend is torn between simply referring to them as 'he,' which works in a grammatical sense, but is factually incorrect, or coming up with another pronoun. But choosing another pronoun can either be silly (she tried 'them,' which quickly became a grammatical shintangle) or slightly offensive ( 'it' doesn't work because calling a sentient being 'it' seems disparaging.) Any ideas?