I have a Happily Married Man character who is the perfect husband/father/friend/humanitarian except he's banging the bejeezus having an affair with either his secretary or babysitter. The story has a trashy, Lifetime movie vibe to it--either a secretary or babysitter is going to seriously fuck up his perfect life. If it's the secretary I can write more work scenes and show his respectable profession side. But if it's the babysitter I can riff off his tranquil domesticity side and write all the trashy sex scenes in his house with all the creepiness that implies. He's not an important character, he's kind of setting up something else, but I can't figure out which way to go. The babysitter (legal age) is obviously grimier, but the secretary implies a logical, work vs. home/church vs. state separation that is more calculating. John Irving had great success with babysitters, but the secretary has a low risk, happily married man simplicity to it. There's no deep literary meaning with this one, but is better to have an affair with the secretary or babysitter?